Author KelC411 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 They will suddenly start to go away, don't worry just try not to think about it that much before you go to sleep. I've been having nightmares, with him, my ex. Sometimes he just stares at me and laughs. lol Ik, Sounds stupid, but it hurts, they're very realistic for a dream. Thanks for the hope they will go away!i have been trying to go to gym i the evening and tire myself out so I am not obsessing right before bed. 1
Author KelC411 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Yeah, the dreams go away with time. They become less frequent the further away from it you get. Most of mine were generic "being together" type stuff that are generally unmemorable but there were two vivid ones that I thought were trippy. 1) About a month or so into NC I'm having a dream where I'm walking through a parking lot away from a hotel I was staying at. I have a jacket on and I feel my phone vibrating. I pick it up and it's the front desk of the hotel. Clear as day, the voice on the other end said "xxx left a message for you saying 'You shouldn't trust me anymore'" in her voice, clear as day as if she was in bed right next to me. I didn't eat what I ate that night for a while after that 2) Fairly recently, way after I've been healed and all that, I have a dream where my ex is pregnant with another man's baby but wants me to be the father of it because her sister told her how good I am with her daughter. Both of them are talking to me about being the father and being with my ex while I'm http://gifrific.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/Confused-Gary-Payton.gif Hahaha! Thanks for the words of encouragement about them going away. Also, I LOVE that gif in repsonse to that dream. Its good to have a sense of humor about them! I did have one where my ex trying to get me back and I was dating a comedian I like, who told me he would fly me to LA all the time. It still wasnt fun to wake up but it did make me chuckle a little bit.
JDPT Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 (edited) I've had plenty of dreams about her but never a "I want her back" dream. I recall a few months ago on my dream she was sitting on my lap and started to kiss me and I literally woke myself up screaming "NO!" subconsciously I was determined to move on but I was still subject just like many of us to go through the heartache. Last night I had a dream where she admitted to cheat on me based on the scenario on my dream. I woke up and said to myself "eh it was just a dream, it doesn't matter anymore...." interestingly, the night before I had a dream about my very first gf (puppy love) and I really enjoyed that dream. We were holding hands and kissing. I woke up with a smile but simultaneously acknowledging the fact that, that part of my life is now in the book of history. Edited December 14, 2013 by JDPT
Mondmellonw Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Thanks for the hope they will go away!i have been trying to go to gym i the evening and tire myself out so I am not obsessing right before bed. That surely helps a lot. I've been exercising for the last two and a half years, so even when I was on my last relationship, I was keeping that activity. It has helped me to relieve a lot of anxiety, and it calms down my mind. It also makes me look fine, so I can't regret and I know you won't neither. Good luck and keep the positive mood.
rosedl Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I dream about him a lot. I had a dream he had cheated on me with another woman. In the dream, we were still together and I found out he had been dating someone else the whole time. I was so confused in the dream because I couldn't understand how he had managed to find time with the other woman when we were always together. I had the dream last night. I feel betrayed by him right now. He has twice pulled me really close and pushed me really far away. Big confusing swings....And, always telling me that I was to blame because I betrayed his trust. Getting upset about legitimate things...being human....expressing confusion and hurt around hurtful situations was what he was referring to....basically whenever I held him to account for his own words. Anyway, I feel abandoned and betrayed and confused to what was real and what was not real in the relationship. Not surprising that I dreamed this dream...
HokeyReligions Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Sometimes I dream he is healthy. That were both healthy and able to walk steady and look forward like we used to. Then I wake up and check on him. Make sure he takes his blood pressure and his medications. Check him to see if we need to go to the hospital and just monitor him for a while. Then try to sleep and hope for the good dream again. Sometimes I pull the bad dream where he's just passed and I'm alone to deal with everything. I like waking from that one.
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