Lennon Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 So a month ago I suscribed to this get your ex back website. Everyday I get a message from the website. I mean they are trying to get me to buy one of those get your ex back e books. Will not be doing that However some of emails do have good advice and nice sentiments to them. I received another email today. It had this story attached to it. One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the whole valley. A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect. There was not a mark or a flaw in it. Yes, they all agreed. It truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen. The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart. Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said, "Why, your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine." The crowd and the young man looked at the old man's heart. It was beating strongly, but full of scars. It had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in, but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges. In fact, in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces were missing. The people stared. "How can he say his heart is more beautiful?" The young man looked at the old man's heart and saw its state and laughed. "You must be joking," he said. "Compare your heart with mine, mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears." "Yes," said the old man, "Yours is perfect looking but I would never trade with you. You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love - I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them, and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart, but because the pieces aren't exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared." "Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away, and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me. These are the empty gouges - giving love is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of the love I have for these people too, and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?" The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect, young and beautiful heart, and ripped a piece out. He offered it to the old man with trembling hands. The old man took his offering, placed it in his heart and then took a piece from his old scarred heart and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart. It fit, but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges. The young man looked at his heart, not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever, since love from the old man's heart flowed into his. They embraced and walked away side by side. Its cheesey I know but its kinda true isn't it. We live we learn.
Am4Real Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 I have no idea where you are in your healing process or if you are in the process at all. If you are, if anyone is who is reading these types of emails, they are most definitely aimed at prolonging self-pity, missing the heart of the one who left you, and making you more determined to get your EX back. Seriously! If you're reading these marketing messages for amusement then so be it, they are cute and amusing. If you're working on healing, unsubscribe from the recipient list would be my advice.
Author Lennon Posted December 13, 2013 Author Posted December 13, 2013 I have no idea where you are in your healing process or if you are in the process at all. If you are, if anyone is who is reading these types of emails, they are most definitely aimed at prolonging self-pity, missing the heart of the one who left you, and making you more determined to get your EX back. Seriously! If you're reading these marketing messages for amusement then so be it, they are cute and amusing. If you're working on healing, unsubscribe from the recipient list would be my advice. I didn't think of it like that. i'm giving up on her ever coming back. Trying anyway. No contact man. Suppose your right though although i don't pay too much thought to what is said in the emails, just got another one saying get a new cologne for when you meet her next or one which will she will associate with a good memory. silly stuff man
PegNosePete Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Am4Real is right Sure it may be a nice story but what does this have to do with getting your ex back? It's designed to trigger an emotional response to get you in a more compliant mood for their sales pitch. 1
Author Lennon Posted December 13, 2013 Author Posted December 13, 2013 Am4Real is right Sure it may be a nice story but what does this have to do with getting your ex back? It's designed to trigger an emotional response to get you in a more compliant mood for their sales pitch. don't worry guys i'm not a sucker. I mean over a month ago i was willing to believe anything and was reading all these get your ex back articles and stuff. Pretty pathetic when i look back. Finding this website has helped though. i'm just trying to move on now. Your probably right though it did trigger an emotional response from me, feeling pretty low today. Up, down, up, down, its depressing. Some days i'm fine, those days are few and far between, but getting better gradually. I came upon this link a couple of weeks ago and it just set me back completely and I regret ever reading it. Why Maintaining Contact With Your Ex Is Crucial | | Ask Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng Broke NC after it and got some answers from her but didn't make me feel and better. Felt pretty anxious and sh*tty afterwards. Won't be breaking again,
Am4Real Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Yes, many have read the same article, but her advice has to be taken in context for the situation and where it might fit. It does not fit AFTER a breakup has been communicated by one of the parties, that's for sure. The vast majority of person's in this particular forum have received the break up communication; in frank terms they were DUMPED. They are DUMPEES and know they are DUMPEES. Maintaining communication is futile and practically never successful, especially in the long-term should the couple actually reconcile. However, if the couple is having a spat, an angry moment, perhaps an event of minor or even major proportion with both person's experiencing this for the first time with the other, yes, communication is the first rule. Obvious to all adults, you don't break up over an argument, not the argument itself. Break up arguments are usually indicative of much more serious issues underneath the tensions. As you pointed out and I expanded on: If you are the communicated [highlight]DUMPEE[/highlight], the article you reference is not for you. don't worry guys i'm not a sucker. I mean over a month ago i was willing to believe anything and was reading all these get your ex back articles and stuff. Pretty pathetic when i look back. Finding this website has helped though. i'm just trying to move on now. Your probably right though it did trigger an emotional response from me, feeling pretty low today. Up, down, up, down, its depressing. Some days i'm fine, those days are few and far between, but getting better gradually. I came upon this link a couple of weeks ago and it just set me back completely and I regret ever reading it. Why Maintaining Contact With Your Ex Is Crucial | | Ask Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng Broke NC after it and got some answers from her but didn't make me feel and better. Felt pretty anxious and sh*tty afterwards. Won't be breaking again, 1
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