AlphaC Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 (edited) My ex left me back in late September, she told me she was confused... whateva!!! I contacted her twice, never to speak about the relationship but about mundane matters such as money owed, she kept my money....whateva!! So she kept my money and I kept my sanity, I am now a free man, I'm starting to date new women, going to my company's holiday party with an old flame this Saturday. This old flame is visiting from Europe for a week, she is 10X hotter than my ex. My ex made the decision for both of us, and being a man, I have to accept it. I didn't try to change her mind, we had broken up 5 months prior to our last break up and at that time it was partly my fault, so I begged and got her back. Unfortunately her taking me back in April gave her the upper hand, and boy did she abuse her privilege! This time I did nothing wrong, I treated her well so there was no reason for me to beg, cry and/or try to change her mind; there was nothing I needed to change. Anyway people, be careful what you wish for, the Dalai Lama says "not getting what you want sometimes is a stroke of luck." Dozens of people told me this after my ex decided she didn't want my handsome self, it's all cool though, because I have options, I have a good career, i'm fit, own property, I'm doing really well. I lost a lot of time and I have to start over but stressing out over it will not help me one bit. To all of you guys and girls with a newly acquired status of "single" be happy, appreciate all that you have, friends, family, education, job, etc. Think of everything you have in your life, think of every accomplishment, goal, meta (in spanish) that you have achieved, and ask yourself if your ex helped you with any of these? When I look back at my year and change with my ex I always ask myself the following: "what did she bring to the table?" - the answer is "NADA." Then I do some introspecting and and ask myself another question: "did she help me achieve any of my goals?" answer -"NO!!" So friends be happy that you are single this holiday season, less gifts to give to that miserable, unappreciative ex of yours. Spend more time with your friends and family, be grateful that you are living in these times, we in the USA are experiencing history, the first black president. I have so much more to say but I want you all to know that i have read a lot of stories here on LS, i have responded to a few and my message has always been the same, BE STRONG, LET GO OF THE PAST AND LOVE YOURSELF - NEVER ALLOW SOMEONE ELSE TO BE YOUR SOURCE OF HAPPINESS. Edited December 13, 2013 by AlphaC 9
FortunateSon Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 "Unfortunately her taking me back in April gave her the upper hand, and boy did she abuse her privilege! This time I did nothing wrong, I treated her well so there was no reason for me to beg, cry and/or try to change her mind; there was nothing I needed to change. " This is EXACTLY what happened to me!! After I reconciled with my ex, for the next year and a half, even after we became engaged, she felt I owed the world to her. After we got back together nothing, I mean NOTHING, was good enough. All she did was blame, criticize, and make me feel unappreciated. I treated her like a queen, and with all of her animosity she held on to, she could not appreciate anything! I feel sorry for her, she could have had the world. I while heartedly agree with you...be happy for all of the good things in your life. Another quote I think is very wise is "It's hard to be unhappy with a grateful heart"
mendsley Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Alpha, this ***** is spot on. When someone kicks your ass to the curb you are in so much shock you lose your mind. But in retrospect, the reason the ex even wanted you in the first place was because you had something to offer. You never lost what you have to offer, you just get complacent and forget what it is. If they think someone else has something better to offer, well, get to stepping. Think back to what your life was before the ex entered it and reclaim that ****! Thanks Alpha, good *****! 5
AnyaNova Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Alpha, this ***** is spot on. When someone kicks your ass to the curb you are in so much shock you lose your mind. But in retrospect, the reason the ex even wanted you in the first place was because you had something to offer. You never lost what you have to offer, you just get complacent and forget what it is. If they think someone else has something better to offer, well, get to stepping. Think back to what your life was before the ex entered it and reclaim that ****! Thanks Alpha, good *****! Mendsley. This!!! Thank you so much for this. This is what I forget. This, when I get dumped (which to be fair, has only happened to me twice in my life, but still).
iworthmore Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 you are right ALPHAC. today i posted a thread almost saying the same. our main and only problem that we all trapped in the idea that our ex's are the source of our happiness. and that so wrong. once we get rid of this kind of thinking we will start enjoying ourselves again. im keeping on telling my self. i didn't lose her we lose ppl who good to us. we were blessed that time make us get rid of such person. and the future hiding us the one that gonna make us happy. good for u to be positive and strong. you and i worth more 2
JDPT Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 NEVER ALLOW SOMEONE ELSE TO BE YOUR SOURCE OF HAPPINESS. Gotta love this. Very nice!
ponchsox Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Amen. I'm at a very happy place right now and I realize my ex was just bringing me down with her problems. I'm glad she let me go, she did me a favor! 2
AnyaNova Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Amen. I'm at a very happy place right now and I realize my ex was just bringing me down with her problems. I'm glad she let me go, she did me a favor! You know, it did really hit home for me after reading this post, how much all of his stressing was causing me to stress. And that is added stress that I don't need right now with the state of my graduate work. Thank you. I mean, I suppose it is true that if he and I could get together and not worry ourselves into a lather, it could be pretty good. But, its not, and he won't and the reduction in stress is a great thing. Thank you both, Ponchsox and Mendsley!
polynomial Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 You know, it did really hit home for me after reading this post, how much all of his stressing was causing me to stress. And that is added stress that I don't need right now with the state of my graduate work. Thank you. I mean, I suppose it is true that if he and I could get together and not worry ourselves into a lather, it could be pretty good. But, its not, and he won't and the reduction in stress is a great thing. Thank you both, Ponchsox and Mendsley! Yep. This applies to me as well.
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