kat1012 Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 It's been 4 months since my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me. My life's back to normal, I've been meeting new people, got a new hobby and loving it, going out with friends and having fun. I know I don't love him anymore, but it's just from time to time, I got reminded of how I might have screwed up and caused him to break up with me in the end. I kept thinking how I was this "crazy drama queen", "unsupportive" (because one time I told him I would text him to see if he really woke up early the next day, since he drunk texted me at 2am saying he will wake up really early to go to the gym), and "full of myself" (we were texting and talking abt my day and he sent "had an interesting day" in the middle followed by responding to what i was saying, I stupidly read it the wrong way at first thinking it's abt me, until he's like "oh wow I thought we were just talking abt you" when I then asked him how his day was after he stopped replying to my texts) whenever I thought of the moments I possibly screwed up, I just felt so stupid, embarrassed and cringed at these moments. I looked back at the stuff I bickered about, I realized they are not that much of a big deal. I know back then I was upset about sth he said/did, but I may have overreacted by bickering about it. It's not like I still love him. Seeing him or his facebook is fine, they dont trigger me. I've been at the same event with him twice and talked to him a bit and I am totally fine. It's just sometimes at night or when I saw words like "drama queen" "crazy bitch" "supportive", I will be thinking of all the stupid things that I have done which might have caused the break up. Why is it so hard to completely get over a relationship?
r321148 Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 "Why is it so hard to completely get over a relationship?" Good question but I have no answer as I'm still doing this! As for the rest of it you need to not be so hard on yourself. Chances are that both of you made mistakes...breakups are rarely all down to one party. The examples you gave are really nothing to feel guilty about imo. If you really think it's a problem though, then it's something you can chalk off to experience and learn from it so you don't make the same mistakes again. If you're really over him then just use it as a learning experience and work on it, then when the next guy comes along you can avoid making the same 'mistakes'. Everyone makes mistakes but if you learn from them then you gain from it in the long run. Good luck
Going4it Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Well, the couple of things you said in your post were hardly break up worthy. If you are worried that you are becoming a drama queen, just work on it for the future. Don't take everything so seriously. Don't overthink every word a guy says. Especially in a text, because you can easily misinterpret the tone and meaning. If you worry about every little comment he said or you said, you are going to end up very insecure and insecurity is a relationship killer.
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