gypsy25 Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 Hi, I was wondering if anyone else has been in this situation before and I would love some advice =) I have been seeing this one guy for 6 months now. We met on a job we were both working on and we clicked instantly and had amazing chemistry, so much in common it was scary. Anyway, he is very busy with his career right ( he's 25 I'm 21) and that is number one on his mind. He said from about a month in that he wasn't ready for a commited relationship at this point in his life because he couldn't give me everything that a loving relationship needs because of the focus he has on his career. Anyway, I told him I was alright with that and that I would still continue seeing him and be in his life whenever he needed me. Anyways, it's been 6 months and we are still seeing one another and being intimate, the whole shabang. He calls me his girlfriend as well. I guess what I'm wondering is how should I act now? I've been very concsious of giving him all the space in the world and letting him lead the way because I don't want to pressure him into being with me since I respect his decision to live his life the way he wants and I don't want to force him to commit to me. I certainly am not conducting myself like I would in a normal commited relationship, as far as calling him spontaneously and telling him I love him or that I miss him, I always let him call me and don't demand a thing because I adore him and being with him makes me so happy. I actually quite enjoy the relationship as is because there really are no strings attached and we truly love being around one another. I guess my question is how should I be conducting myself? He said from the start he didn't want to commit yet he treats me like his girlfriend. What should I do? Should I bring it up?
alphamale Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 Originally posted by gypsy25 I guess my question is how should I be conducting myself? He said from the start he didn't want to commit yet he treats me like his girlfriend. What should I do? Should I bring it up? Actions speak louder than words. Just keep on doing what you're doing. If he treats you like his g/f then you are his g/f. Give it another 3 to 6 months and then you need to have a serious discussion as to the future of the relationship.
kanga Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 actions speaking louder than words -- so true. also, if things are going well and you're happy with the way things are, then why would you want to change it to the way you've done relationships in the past ... the "i miss you" etc. stuff. maybe that was part of the problem with previous relationships. i say if you're happy, he's happy, and all is well, don't add things into the mix that might not make things better.
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