If MM's wife always wants to take MM back unconditionally

[Mount]

The leash I mean stop sign, earlier this year she had demanded him 0 personal contact with me, guess that did not happen.

 

This time here go again, zero personal contact, can not be friend even. not happening either.

 

Of course he goes back home, he should anyway. They like to be pretending happy family/happy marriage, even after the recent interesting confrontation. So am I , I want to keep good face as well, zero contact with the MM on the surface. But behind the scene.... This time I can see he is more cautious, does not want to leave any trail.

 

Make no mistake about it - she doesn't keep him on a leash.

 

He may lead her to believe that with his lies and pretending - but we all have evidence there is no leash.

Edited December 13, 2013 by Mount

[KathyM]

But how do you know I would even be willing to marry the MM IF wife kicks him out, why can' t you even think the reason I keep choosing him is because I dont being "locked" under marriage. That is why I feel those single gentlemen so TASTELESS.

 

How did you know I did not talk to those Counselling, which is totally so useless....Just a few time, you can tell they know nothing about other people' s lives.

 

And can you stop ask Why...just because you are reading what you dont' want to read. But remember, reality is happening, life is life, it is not textbook, it can go any direction.

So you are saying that you choose to stay with a MM because you don't want a commitment or responsibility to anyone, and a MM won't have any expectations of you in that regard. You know, there are also single men who don't want a commitment or responsibility to anyone, and you won't have all this drama to deal with. Or maybe you like the drama. Maybe it's all about the competition. Winning the competition is more important to you than the actual prize (if you could call this MM a prize).

[Mount]

You are saying MM is a "prize":eek:, I never even think that.

 

So you are saying that you choose to stay with a MM because you don't want a commitment or responsibility to anyone, and a MM won't have any expectations of you in that regard. You know, there are also single men who don't want a commitment or responsibility to anyone, and you won't have all this drama to deal with. Or maybe you like the drama. Maybe it's all about the competition. Winning the competition is more important to you than the actual prize (if you could call this MM a prize).

[Journee]

So..............?

 

I was referring to the MM hurting people because he can. Those people being you and his wife.

 

You did ask a question in your OP. People are answering it. People who may actually have an answer instead of speculation or drooling the typical degrading answers. Degradation goes both ways.[/QUOTE]

 

 

 

Alrighty then.....

 

Good luck

[stillafool]

The leash I mean stop sign, earlier this year she had demanded him 0 personal contact with me, guess that did not happen.

 

This time here go again, zero personal contact, can not be friend even. not happening either.

 

Of course he goes back home, he should anyway. They like to be pretending happy family/happy marriage, even after the recent interesting confrontation. So am I , I want to keep good face as well, zero contact with the MM on the surface. But behind the scene....This time I can see he is more cautious, does not want to leave any trail.

 

 

That's because he does not want to leave her.

[Mount]

Don't we all know that? The definition of Affair is what - having romantic relationship with WS being still in marriage, isn't it.

 

That's because he does not want to leave her.

[stillafool]

Don't we all know that? The definition of Affair is what - having romantic relationship with WS being still in marriage, isn't it.

 

Good that you know he is never going to leave his wife Mount, what are you going to do?

[Mount]

Doing what I am doing now as well as previously....can't you still not understand:eek::eek:

 

You really think I will take him IF(does not matter whether IF exists or not) he leaves....all we talk here is so hypothetically. I am more a this-moment person.

 

Good that you know he is never going to leave his wife Mount, what are you going to do?

[beach]

If MM's wife always wants to take MM back unconditionally, does that mean she is doomed that her husband will continue cheating on her.

 

Enough said, you know why I am asking this.

 

Only if he's a jerk...

 

And yes, she will likely continue.

[Mascara]

It's pretty obvious to everyone that you're desperately in love with this man.

 

Instead of posting here, you'd be much better off going no-contact and trying to get over him. And NC means not even posting about it.

[threelaurels]

Affairs just aren't dealbreakers to some people, whatever the reason. The "good" she is getting out of the marriage outweighs his cheating. It really is that simple.

[Mount]

I totally agree. Divorce or even marriage actually is a business decision, people have to leverage all give and take from all angles.

 

Affairs just aren't dealbreakers to some people, whatever the reason. The "good" she is getting out of the marriage outweighs his cheating. It really is that simple.

[stillafool]

I totally agree. Divorce or even marriage actually is a business decision, people have to leverage all give and take from all angles.

 

I don't think most people enter marriage with the idea that this is a business decision. I think most people marry because they have found the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with and to create a family with and of course love. Granted if they seek a divorce the financial aspect of the marriage will certainly come into play but really their feelings for each other and the kids will most likely take priority. There is far more emotional involvment between two people in marriage, business not so much.

[experiencethedevine]

What I am seeing and feeling here is a very, very angry and upset woman...........................

[Mount]

So? This is not big news either, is it? External words won't upset me anyway.

 

So I am happy, or angry, or discreetly satisfied with my actions and outcome...so what.

 

Or shall I ask to close the post, coz obviously it is pointless meanless I post sth that most "moral" keepers aren't happy to see, so that antagonistic responding back on and on.

 

What I am seeing and feeling here is a very, very angry and upset woman...........................

Edited December 13, 2013 by Mount

[KathyM]

Well, it's not us that are going to suffer any consequences by you staying in the affair. It's of no relevance to our lives at all. You and the BS are the ones who will suffer because you both choose to stay in a relationship where neither of you are getting what you want out of it. You say (or imply) that you are O.K. with having no expectations of the MM, no need to have a commitment of any kind, and are willing to share him with his wife. Apparently, you think whatever benefits you are getting from being in this pseudo relationship are better than what you will find from a real relationship. I just don't see how you would want to settle for that. It would seem very unfulfilling to me. But it's your life, and your choice if this is good enough for you. Apparently, his wife has decided this is good enough for her also. I don't like to see women settle for so little, and put up with such crap from men. Who enable men to behave so badly. But if you and his wife are willing to put up with it, it's your loss. I think you both (OW and BS) are sacrificing your lives and happiness for a man who is unworthy of any love or respect from any woman, but I guess you both have accepted this man's crumbs that he throws to each of you. So be it.

[krazikat]

But how do you know I would even be willing to marry the MM IF wife kicks him out, why can' t you even think the reason I keep choosing him is because I dont being "locked" under marriage. That is why I feel those single gentlemen so TASTELESS.

 

How did you know I did not talk to those Counselling, which is totally so useless....Just a few time, you can tell they know nothing about other people' s lives.

 

And can you stop ask Why...just because you are reading what you dont' want to read. But remember, reality is happening, life is life, it is not textbook, it can go any direction.

 

Mount, you are acting as if none of us remember your posts about how mm was going to cause his own dday by admitting all to his BS and moving in with you. You even down talked other ow saying they were weak and more for allowing their mm to stay with the BS and continue being ow. You were going on and on about "action" and how your mm moved in with you. How you would not waste your time with a mm without action to end the affair and make it legit.

 

Then mm did in fact move in with you.

 

Then he moved right back out and went back to his wife.

 

Didn't you then say you would not continue the affair with him?

 

Stop lying to yourself. Lie to us all you want. It doesn't make or break us. Go back and read your own threads. You are changing history your history. You will only hurt yourself in the end.

[Mount]

People change, words change.what I did say before can mean nother later on. Why affair exisits - yes people change thoughts, change words, change behavior in REAL life. Not some text or post under the fingers. People live on via life, not keystrokes. Right? Things will be different in real life every second, every minute, dynamic will change.