iamawesome Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Hi friends, Met a really awesome girl and took her out a couple of nights. We ended up sleeping together before she left to visit her family for the holidays. Here's the kicker, she's going to be gone for 5 weeks. It's already been two weeks and we keep in touch doing skype and texting. She said she's into me and I like her too but here's my dilemma: I have other girls I'm also dating and I'm not sure how to navigate this given we didn't really communicate any expectations. Other girls are asking me if I'm seeing someone and I'm not sure what the answer is. I'm worried that if I bring up the subject with her, it will put undue pressure on us since we are still very early, but at the same time I'm not sure if waiting is appropriate either. Thoughts?
InnocentMan Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Would you be ok with things if she continued to date others? Every step of a relationship doesn't need to be vocalised. A good tip is, when in doubt, don't have sex with anyone else. Casual dating would be fine at this stage, but anything else opens up a can of worms for future conversations.
Author iamawesome Posted December 13, 2013 Author Posted December 13, 2013 I'm ok with her casually dating others, but if she slept around I would have sexual health concerns, mostly because I wouldn't feel comfortable asking her to get tested, or the details about whether the sex was safe or not. Maybe I just need to get to know her better?
MalachiX Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 First of all, I think it's important that you're as honest as possible. Was this a hook-up that you thought you might want more from or are you guys "dating." It's not fair if she thinks there's something more but you're still seeing other people. If you're sure it's still casual on her side then I wouldn't suggest breaking off any other options just yet (even though that's probably what I'd be inclined to do if I had feelings). I say this because time can really put a damper on an initial attraction. I've been in that place before where me and another person were both into each other but we both got busy in between engagements and I could feel her lose interest REALLY fast. Maybe it was just me but I think that many people get a rush when they first start to think they like someone romantically and, if that rush isn't re-enforced quickly, it can fade. Five weeks is quite a long time. I'm not saying you two can't keep up the connection. I'm just saying it's hard to count on that. If you had a hear to heart via Skype it might be possible but that might also be too soon too fast.
Delilah1623 Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Call me crazy but you.could talk to her about it ::::gasp::::
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