Honeybun11 Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Why is it when you go through a break up you just seem to lose all pride and discipline and just go absolutely mental?? I popped into my ex's dad's shop today to say hello and give him some things of my ex's that I found in my room, I just didn't want to contact my ex because he's seeing someone else (already!). I told my mum and she said that I would have seemed like such a weirdo! Now I just feel completely mental and I'm worried that his family will be thinking the same too. Also I am not handling this break up very well I am so depressed by it, it's my mum's 50th in a few weeks and she said I'm ruining it for her. She has been supportive and chats to me now and then, but I can't help how I feel. I feel like home is the only place I can mope about whereas at work and college I have to put on a front to stop myself from breaking down and crying. This isn't fair that I'm suffering whilst my ex is off with a new girl having so much fun, probably.
JDPT Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 You need to find your hardest as did that inner strength to propel yourself. It appears that you are going through the fist stages or perhaps I'm wrong. In any case know that from this point forward you are all that matters and your recovery is of outmost importance. Do not attempt to numb your feelings with drugs or alcohol as those will only bring you down a deeper hole. Be strong my friend we are all here for you and can resonate with your pain.
Author Honeybun11 Posted December 12, 2013 Author Posted December 12, 2013 What's the fist stage? Thank you that's very kind of you to reply.
JDPT Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Where you are in shock and everything hits you all at once. You feel overwhelmed with emotions and feel as if you are ring tore I pieces. Know that in time and with a substantial amount of effort this pain will subside and become a bit more manageable. Don't neglect your recovery process and I must add that professional assistance always helps.
Augustus64 Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 It sucks ive been there too. but you gotta pull yourself up from your bootstraps and begin to take the steps to heal. like deleting every picture, email, txt, EVERYTHING. it will take time but you will heal and be more than fine you just have to want that and it will all fall into place
2fargone Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 I might be the only one picking up on this, but your mom saying you must look like a weirdo and telling you how you ruining it all for HER, seems hardly supportive. It's playing the guilt card. I didn't read your entire story, I don't know your mom, but if more of this is going on and has been going on I'd go as far as to say your mom might be the reason why you picked such a guy as your ex. FWIW I think you did good with returning the stuff and acting normal towards his dad. Then again, I ain't no Freud.....
ponchsox Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 A breakup causes emotional trauma which needs time to heal. That is why NC is so important for a recovery. Eventually, you will get your self worth and confidence back. Take it one day at a time and don't be too hard on yourself. 1
Insanityisdoingsame Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Family is forever . B***** come and go like the weather. Take care of your mum , she seams like she really cares about you. Best of luck
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