THAT stomach feeling

[Freeman1123]

You know the kind, you're getting over someone and you see their face or their name on Facebook/Twitter and your stomach just twists into two. I hate it and I get it real bad, my heart starts beating and I get really really nervous, for no reason whatsoever!? I keep telling myself i'm not but I always end up scrolling through and seeing her in some pictures and it kills me every time. FFS!

 

This is kind of just me ranting, so hi

[ponchsox]

I don't put myself in a position where I will see her. I threw out and deleted all photos and blocked her on Facebook. My mental memory is enough as it is.

[Freeman1123]

I'm starting to think your way could be the better way. I dunno I've always wanted to be the bigger man in a way, and not have to do that, be able to see her and be like yeah that was in the past. I've moved on :/

[Honeybun11]

I feel like sometimes I purposely do that, like putting salt in the wounds. But now I've stopped myself. I know it sounds terrible but I know my ex's password for fb and I kept checking it, I could see messages between him and the girl he was seeing. God I am such a freak! But I've done it like 3 times now, but I need to stop because every time I feel 1000 times worst. So yeah just try and put yourself in a situation where you don't see them, like delete and block them. One day you in a few months perhaps have a look and test yourself to see how you feel? But for now cut all contact or knowledge. Dont you ever wish we just lived like 50 years a go where the only contact was a home telephone? It would make it so much easier because there would be no way I would contact my ex via his parents phone.

[mtnbiker3000]

I'm starting to think your way could be the better way. I dunno I've always wanted to be the bigger man in a way, and not have to do that, be able to see her and be like yeah that was in the past. I've moved on :/

 

This is not possible until you are indifferent. Can't reach indifference pretending photo's and such don't bother you. Hide, delete, block until you just don't care any longer. Then, and only then can you be the bigger man. Right now, just like many of us, you're just simply a crushed man

[haggard969]

yes , mine was so serve that i devoloped a giant ulcer lost extreme wieght. best way to stop that feeling, i found was night quil or crying or straight distraction, aviod alchohal n drugs, that only brought me down hill

[Freeman1123]

I think distraction is the best thing to be honest. I've got my work Christmas part on Sunday, hopefully that'll take my mind off it. Last thing we've said was me saying I'll leave her to it, speak to her whenever. She said ok fine xx that was the other day.

[JDPT]

Stop doing it to yourself, think about you only, save yourself future grief and start recovery.

[ks0985]

This is why i do not use social media, NO Facebook, NO Instagram none of that **** for me.

[JDPT]

This is why i do not use social media, NO Facebook, NO Instagram none of that **** for me.

 

I couldn't have said it any better, same here. Social media is the modern day devil.

[Fangorn]

Yeah, I've edited my laptops host files so I can't view anything to do with her otherwise I'd tear myself apart looking at her Facebook and blog. It's hard but viewing the front she'd be putting on and rubbing salt into the wounds would be harder.

 

Stay strong brother, no contact of any kind can only help you heal. There are no downsides even if it is a struggle.

[Freeman1123]

OK so, i'm sitting here on a Friday night. Tried to distract myself with friends but people are busy/no money. Genuine accident, saw she's going out. Again. Need some kind of distraction!