melissaxo Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Hi everyone! My boyfriend and I broke up about 4 months ago. It was kind of mutual, but he was the one that officially ended it. I ended up seriously regretting the way our relationship ended, and texted him about a month after we broke up telling him how much I missed him. We spoke for a while through text, it was mostly just asking how I was doing. We didn't speak again afterwards, so I really thought my feelings were not reciprocated. He ended up texting me a week ago, saying he was thinking about me and wanted to know how I was doing. We spoke all day, and he said he missed me. He hasn't texted me since, but he's commented on a few of my Facebook pictures (which he's never done before, even when we were together.) Now, I'm not sure if this is just him being friendly or if there really is a chance that we can get back together. I'm dying to call or text him, but I don't know if I should wait for him to reach out to me again. I want him back so badly, but I don't want to appear desperate especially if that's not what he wants.
valerasoy Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Hey Melissa. It's funny how we both posted similar post. Instead, I'm the aftermath lol My ex too text me first after two months; hes the one who broke it off too. He also told me how he misses me and wants to get back together. In the end, he wasn't serious and I ended up hurt again. I posted up the thread earlier, read it if you want the full story. Anyway, I learned something after this experience, if he really wants you back he'll make it loud and clear. Don't go by text and messages, trust me, he might miss you but doesn't necessarily mean he wants to be with you. Let him prove himself to you. Which means let him call you and make the first move. Don't forget your ex broke up with you. If he did it, it was a good enough reason for him, and most likely will do it again given the right circumstances. I'm not saying that there isn't a possibility of you two getting back together You two could very well be a couple again. But much like me, it was too soon and nothing was talked about like our fears, expectations or boundaries. I think most couples have bad communication, and dont talk about what bothers them. This was my problem. Anyway, there are your options: either talk to him and tell him how you feel, and take it from thete, slowly try to regain each others trust. Or let him make the first move. If he reallys wants to be with you, he'll make it clear! And please start off friendly, I made a mistake and put myself in a compromising situation :/ As for now, just focus on yourself, goals , school etc. And try not to hype up the idea of you two being together because you might end up severly disappointed. Good luck, hun 1
Author melissaxo Posted December 13, 2013 Author Posted December 13, 2013 Ugh I know you're right. I keep telling myself exactly that; if we wanted me back he'd fight for me. I guess it's just the fact that I never really got closure in our relationship. We never really discussed our breakup, and things are SO different for both of us now, wayyyy different than when we were dating so I feel like it has the potential to work so much better. But I mean, I can't force him to see that sadly. I was honestly pretty close to getting over him until he texted me, now it all came flooding back lol 1
valerasoy Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I unstand you, girl. Same here. I also thought thing would be different with my ex since I was aware of my mistakes. The issue here are the men,not us. You're doing fine; he messed up. It's not our fault they abuse our kindness and willingness. There probably isn't going to be any closure for you or me. However, I think the only closure we can provide is accepting that we won't get the closure that we want from our exs. But IT is what it is. I find saying that over and over gives me piece of mind. Just a little bit, ha ha You'll be fine. Just keep your wits about you. If your ex does come to his senses, I sincerely hope it works out for you two.
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