tem7074 Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 I've posted a little bit on here about a LDR that has been on the rocks recently. Now I am really trying moving on (again). Haven't gone complete no contact yet - we have a shared financial obligation unfortunately that will prevent true NC for a while. We are on friendly terms. This relationship did not last as long as the others I have had (was 12 years with my last girl) but the loss of this short one is causing me so much more trouble. I think about her all the time. I have never missed someone or felt this kind of longing for another person like this in my whole life. She, on the other hand, is pretty much ok with the whole thing and seems happier than ever. It hurts, but it makes me realize that I need to let her go. Thankfully, the emotional pain is not as bad as it used to be, so I guess I am on the road to healing. I just feel empty now, not happy with myself or the life I am leading. I really would rather be living in her city, not mine. I moved there temporarily because I love the place, and then I happened to meet her (didn't plan at all to fall in love with someone). I had to go back home, and was making plans to relocate, but our relationship didn't make it. I still want to move there regardless of her (and still have some applications in), but now it is all F***ed up. Anyway, I guess the loss of the hopes and dreams for a new, more interesting life is just as hard, if not harder, to deal with than the loss of just a relationship. I guess I just needed to vent - the holidays don't help much either. Hope everyone out there is moving forward with their coping and recovery. Cheers.
ponchsox Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Just remember Christmas is about the gift of God's grace through his son Jesus which is more important for us than anything.
Reels Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Just remember Christmas is about the gift of God's grace through his son Jesus which is more important for us than anything. Hey stop forcing your beliefs on others for now.. Okay?
TrappedWanderer Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Tem-I feel the same way. I was in a LDR for a year and a half. We ended up getting married and I upped and moved my whole life there for him. Pretty quickly, things got bad and he revealed himself to be a toxic person (I didn't jump into this, had been friends with him for 11 years). I've just returned to where I grew up to try and figure out what's next. Very painful, as you can imagine...I'm used to talking/video chatting with him every day and had only just gotten used to being married and was so happy about it. So I feel you-it's not only the relationship that I'm mourning, it's the loss of all the hopes and dreams that went along with it. I really wanted to live in that city and wanted that change, so I'm now also mourning the loss of those things as well. The holidays absolutely do make it harder...it's been a rough day for me, thinking about all that, looking for a new job, etc, but I'm trying. We'll get through it....we have to, right? The alternative is misery forever and that's no way to live.
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