Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 13, 2013 Author Posted December 13, 2013 That's cool, get mad at me. Get mad at something. If that anger gets you to where you need to go, then mission accomplished. Bring all you got -- would much rather you take it out on me then whimper and fail in relation to him. I don't know why that made me cry, but it did. I'm glad you at least have good intentions.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 I don't know why that made me cry, but it did. I'm glad you at least have good intentions. Of course, I want you to be free of this and want you to live your life. And yes, I've been hard on you because a) I'm more of the blunt, "bad cop" type and b) you remind me of so many posters on here that roll over and die when push comes to shove. And that would suck to see that happen. I don't want to make you cry, but if you have to cry, me making you cry for 30 seconds from being blunt on a message board is better than this a-hole ex making you cry for several months because you are putting up with garbage hoping for a "fairytales and candy" happy ending with him. You seem like a nice person -- maybe too nice -- so I guess I'm trying to toughen you up. Being nice is not equal to being a doormat. You can be nice and still have some fight in ya. 3
BC1980 Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 I don't know why that made me cry, but it did. I'm glad you at least have good intentions. People give the advice they give because they have seen these same scenarios over and over. I wanted to think I was different too, but it just isn't true. I moved out the very night my ex dumped me. I was lucky that my parents lived only 30 minutes away. Your situation is similar to mine and many others, so I get your pain.
Haydn Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 It was realistic. Have you moved? Okay first of all...of course I don't want to hurt myself! Hence, why I'm moving out. Second of all, it's not that easy to "not care"...hence, why there is LoveShack. I mean, if you're gona say something on here, be realistic. Jeesh. And last but not least, read my thread. I am moving out this weekend. 1
lil hoodlum Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Please don't keep us hanging. Have you moved out yet?
rosedl Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 That sucks. I took everyone's advice and got all my stuff today and left a note saying I was done being strung along. I have ignored all his bids for contact. It is hard leaving relationships. Even when they are healthy. It took me forever to leave my ex before this one. That one took ten years. This one took two..and I won't beat myself up too hard. Our reconciliation for the first few months was very good. I thought it was a serious attempt to commit to each other. Now, I see it was clearly not. He really wooed me to win me back this time. Expensive gifts, helping me with my work, great sex, cooked me dinners, vacations. Total dream guy stuff. But, the thrill of the chase...ah...it ebbs, I kept wanting to move forward and he wants to be alone now. He likes to move in and out. Can't understand my confusion when he is done with his wooing phase and I think that it is real and I get confused. Then, he needs space. Then, he wants weeks of alone time. Then, he has options. Pretty soon, he is offering me freedom. Do I want to date other men during this period? Maybe we should break up and do a reset again. It's crazy. I needed to come on here and have people give me a wake up call. I knew all this stuff as well. If he is right in your environment, it is brutal. We live apart at least and I have my own home. He did get me the new furnace, I bet he thought that would buy more time then it did!
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