Fangorn Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 I've been wondering if I should send my ex a letter explaining that while I'm sad we're no longer together and angry she dropped me for someone else that I understand she wants to see if the grass is greener elsewhere and to thank her for showing me I can love someone so deeply. The only problem is I'm not sure if I want to send this with genuine intention or to make her feel guilty. Outside and objective opinions would be appreciated.
fixing Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Hell no! She left you for someone else? Give her NOTHING. Mate, no contact for you. You will end up coming off as begging and sound very weak and pathetic. I know its extremely painful for you right now. But you gotta think with your head and not your heart. She dropped you for someone else. So save your dignity and initiate no contact immediately. NO LETTER. Sorry for you pain 2
Never Again Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 If you're questioning your own intentions, then you definitely shouldn't have contact. The rest of the situation doesn't matter much at that point. However, since she dumped you for someone else, don't put any effort into contacting her. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 It won't change anything. I think you can & should write the letter to clarify your own thoughts but don't send it.
Author Fangorn Posted December 12, 2013 Author Posted December 12, 2013 Hmmm, I suppose you're both right. I want her to suffer like I have though, however vindictive that may be of me. Life's not bloody fair. Why does she get to be happy with her new guy while I have to deal with this ****.
KelC411 Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 I have wanted to do this too. Both an angry letter and, at times, a letter of gratitude. But dont do it! I feel like all of us, deep down, want some meaningful response, whether our exes coming back or just them acknoledging us, and it seems like it rarely works out that way. She has already hurt you deeply, dont give her a chance to do it again with silence, or even potentially, being cold to you. I know it is easier said than done though.
fixing Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Hmmm, I suppose you're both right. I want her to suffer like I have though, however vindictive that may be of me. Life's not bloody fair. Why does she get to be happy with her new guy while I have to deal with this ****. 13 months later and im asking the same question lol! We gotta let it go. Let that ship sail off into the sunset and karma will hopefully come along and throw an iceberg in the way. Seriously though, you send that letter and you will be dying from regret the moment it leaves your hand. Be the bigger man and walk away. 1
ponchsox Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Don't give her the satisfaction of letting her feel in control and still wanted! The best thing to do is stay NC. That will drive her nuts, trust me.
whichwayisup Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 I've been wondering if I should send my ex a letter explaining that while I'm sad we're no longer together and angry she dropped me for someone else that I understand she wants to see if the grass is greener elsewhere and to thank her for showing me I can love someone so deeply. The only problem is I'm not sure if I want to send this with genuine intention or to make her feel guilty. Outside and objective opinions would be appreciated. Nope don't send anything. Write it but for yourself to help with closure. Silence says so much more than words!
Mariposa10 Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 I sent my ex "a letter" (an email) which I cried the entire time while I typed it... It didn't change anything. He had already made up his mind... There's nothing we can do or say to change their minds... Don't do it...
Author Fangorn Posted December 12, 2013 Author Posted December 12, 2013 Yes I suppose you are all right. I think I wanted to write it originally to let her know I understand and that I will move on, but what good will that do me and what's the point? Thank you all for your words of encouragement.
Haydn Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 No. big mistake, stay silent. Dont beg. Dont look for a reason. Take care.
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