Christmas away. Good or bad?

[firststeps]

Going away on a solo holiday over Christmas. Anyone else done this? How was the experience?

 

l was married for 14 years, together with him for 20. No kids.

 

We we together with his family every Christmas and l couldn't bear to around my hometown for the holidays. His family, is his family and l respect that.

 

l had alot of invites but l didn't want to be part of someone elses experience.

 

I know he is already planning on splitting his time with the OW and his family.

 

It hurts like hell, he left me in Sept., and l truly feel alone, used and replaced.

 

At least l will be in a tropical destination, away, not away from the reminders but a welcomed distraction.

[im_thedude]

It all depends on what type of person you are.

 

I'm a lone wolf within the city - I love exploring new places, relaxing with a nice book at a coffee shop, eating lunch by myself in a nice setting. But when it comes to a vacation, I know for a fact it wouldn't be a nice experience for me. That's something I definitely would need to do with somebody or else that loneliness would get the best of me.

 

You say your split still hurts, and you feel alone. If I were you, I would try to keep the holidays upbeat with family and friends.

[strive]

I think spending time alone on a fantastic getaway is a great idea. It'll help you work on everything that's going through your head, and at the same time if you feel like you can't be inside your head anymore, you'll get a lot of distractions by meeting people and seeing places.

 

I did that too after my 10-year RS ended. The thing I enjoyed most was meeting and interacting with people who had no ties with my past. Everything/everyone was new. It felt like an amazing fresh start for me.

[tem7074]

Enjoy your trip! I have done some solo getaways and they have been fun. Though you need to try to keep your mind off your ex. Work on meeting people and staying in the moment.