sivacross Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 I'll try to be brief but it's a long story so I'll make sure all the details are in place. Three months ago, I met this girl in college. She was the one to initiate contact with me. She knew my name already (said she heard someone call me) and we started chatting casually. I've a reputation of being a very curious and creative person. She recognised that as we began working together in the lab. She told me that I was a very interesting person to work with. Since that time, she would find reasons to talk to me everyday. A few days passed and she bluntly asked for my number. I gave her the number and asked her to remind me about something that night (so she doesn't feel like she was being too forward). She texted me that night at the exact time I asked her to and kept the conversation going. Then she would call me everyday and talk to me for over an hour and soon started begging me to talk for some more time when I was about to hang up. After I hang up, she'd text me about random things just to keep the conversation going. The next week in college, she told me all about her family, her friends, her past crushes and relationships and she asked me about mine. I noticed that everytime I mentioned another girl, she'd interrogate me all the details about that girl and would ask me a thousand times if I'm single. She even told me several times that she's very impressed with me and has never seen someone like me before. I couldn't help smiling at these moments. Then came a day when she asked me whether I like her. At this point, I was very confident that she likes me and so I asked her out. That was when everything crashed! She told me she only likes me as a friend (what's going on?!). She didn't speak to me that day. The next day I got a call from her and she told me she likes me as well but that she has got responsibilities. She told me she has to be secure in her career before she can make a decision and asked me to wait for her for another three years. I told her that's a pretty long time to wait for someone. I told her that at this point I'm interested in her and told her that we shall date first before making any big decision. She dismissed that by saying that she doesn't want to date me now because she doesn't want to get used to me and then break up. She wants to be friends with me now and get to know me better and then she'd tell me when she's ready for a relationship. But she'd not give any kind of guarantee or hope that it's gonna happen. This, to me, was a very unstable situation so I said it wouldn't work out like that. She cried so much that day and told me she feels very confused and stranded. I consoled her and tried to give her a hug. She pulled back. I was surprised and left it at that. The next night she texted me that she loves me a lot and doesn't have the courage to express it. I called her up and told her I'd help her feel comfortable and asked her to have trust in me. She smiled at me lovingly the next day but was very, very shy. She told me she doesn't feel comfortable talking after she confessed her true feelings. She tried to back off again. I tried to convince her but to no avail. She asked me to be friends again. We got into an argument and I asked her if she is interested in someone else. She sweared on me that she doesn't like anyone else. I lost my temper at one point and asked her to stop playing with my mind. Apparently she got really offended by that comment and that was the first time she screamed at me. She told me that she is a girl and that it's not easy for her to make decisions unlike me. She said she doesn't want to talk to me anymore after what I said. I called her back that night to pacify her but she got emotional and said, "I don't like you. You'd find someone better than me. Forget me" and hanged up! She has been ignoring me now for the past few weeks. After trying to talk to her twice and failed, I decided to give her enough space for her to decide for herself. So I stopped texting, stopped calling, and stopped speaking to her. She hasn't changed yet. What do you conclude from this? What should I do? I like her and feel guilty about all this now.
PegNosePete Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 She sounds mentally unstable. I would not go near her with a barge pole. You dodged a bullet there dude. Take her advice, find someone else and forget her. 2
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