NiCoLe20 Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 after posting about all my problems with my b/f we are offically over...this happend xmas night... we went to trade gifts...he told me he loved what i got him...then he went to his parents house to eat dinner. I havent heard from him at all after that so i decided to drop by his apartment. his friends were there and he looked pissed that i showed up which i thought was rude. He later tells me he didnt like the gold charm i got him and that got me mad. I was like you know what I cant deal with his crap anymore so im just going to stop bothering him and thats it. so a few days go by and I still havent heard from him. Im thinking to myself- yea he really truely cares about me right?! lol if he did he would atleast call meyou know. well he never did so i assumed we're over. Then, i found out thru a mutual friend of ours , that he gave this girl he use to hook up with when we werent together, a gold necklace and a bracelet with his name onit. I was and still am very angry about that... no wonder why I just got a nameplate without the necklace!!! because he gave it to her!! thats so wrong... so to sum it all up- im done with him, he doesnt care about me obviously, i learned my lesson with him, i will never go back- i went to his house while he was at work and i took back my charm & necklace that i gave to him as well as all my belongings.. i left him a voicemail saying i went to his house & got my stuff and that i NEVER EVER want to see him again, talk to him, or hear from him ever again... and you know what he says- ''sure''!!! unbelievable. well, my friend is trying to match me up with this new guy... he's so sweet and cute i hope things work out. i just want to take it slow you know.. im so over my X ... what a dirtbag.. damn i hate him so much ... im still hurt inside after all we've been thru - but it hurts more knowing he doesnt even care
emasch Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 What a dirt bag...............just please dont rush into enougter relationship untill you deep down are 100% sure you are 100% over the X as new lover will only get hurt All the best to you xx
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 I hear ya sweetheart. I was the dumpee. It wasn't like me and him stopped talking but there were times when it seemed like he didn't care and thats when i said F*CK IT! Chances are....if he's doesn't seem like he cares...he doesn't. Go out with this new guy. I found a new guy and it is absolutely amazing. You will see how different it is from your old relationship and that will be a bigger turn on (if your past relationship was bad like mine). My ex found out about my new guy and flipped.m"I miss you" "I want you back" DON'T FALL FOR IT. Its a sick way for nobody else to have you and they don't want you either. Stay strong and move on. Stick by your guns when you say that you don't want to see them anymore. God luck and keep us updated.
EC Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 Im sorry Nicole, I remember reading all your posts about your problems..... But keep your head up. In a way you knew this was coming all along. So go out, date, flirt, have some fun, and do not De value yourself because of one scum bag.
Author NiCoLe20 Posted January 3, 2005 Author Posted January 3, 2005 thanks guys for ur replies! i know i did a good thing ending this b/c its now a new year and its time to care about myself for a little bit you know. Its just that ive been thru so much with this guy - i feel like i wasted so much time trying to change him into the person i wanted him to be. i tried to take him away from the drugs, tried to make him choose the right decisions but he never listened and now he's stuck back living at home with nothing. he lost all of his friends b/c they realized the type of person he changed into. i mean what really hurts is that he didnt even try to make things work. he just let me go like that. but like i said b4- its all for the better ig uess... its going to take some time to heal and get over all this but it shouldnt be that long. i cried the first night but i havent since. i just wonder what he's thinking about this whole thing..?? i was going thru my old voicemails and played the ones where he was like ''i love you & miss you'' blah blah--and im just sitting here thinking to myself... did he actually mean any of this? but anyways i know im going to see him around b/c he lives like 4 blocks over from me and our town is small & everyone sees everyone daily, even if ur just driving around. if i bump into him somewhere or see him-its best to just turn my head? one side of me wants him to come back and try to work things out & the other is just sooo mad and full of hate that i never want to see/hear from him again. IDK its just too confusing for me as it is for u guys! lol .. well its lunch time off i go!
7on Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 ugh... just don't mention to this new guy you want to take it slow. I am friends with this girl and I always let the girl do the first moves, well one night we got talking about love and relationship stuff. And she was like "I just want to take is slow, get to know you better." Yeah... that definitely makes the guy go crazy about you. At least it did me. I was all for going slowly, but since mentioning that - I have not been able to stop thinking about her. I unload on these forums so I can go for a while without totally loosing it. And so I can talk with her and not be "omg god! You're so sexily beautiful!!! Have me babies!!!" Yeah, that's not slow at all. So yeah, saying "take it slow" actually confirms to the guy that there's definitely a possibility of something happening.
ziggue Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue My Ex found out about my new guy and flipped. "I miss you" "I want you back" DON'T FALL FOR IT. Its a sick way for nobody else to have you and they don't want you either. Stay strong and move on. Stick by your guns when you say that you don't want to see them anymore. God luck and keep us updated. Agree. Been in the same kind of situation too. If he calls he only wants you as back up or for sex. I'll say the same thing. Be strong and don't fall for it. Goodluck with your new guy. .
XNemesisX Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 Nicole, I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. I can completely relate to what you're going through. Its not even so much the breakup that hurts..its the thought that they don't even CARE!! I think you are handling this very well. It is so strange how some people can switch from night to day as far as their feelings are concerned. Sounds like this other girl just waltzed into the picture and it has made him second guess everything with you. A typical case of "the grass is greener on the other side" syndrome. I know this sounds mean but I hope things don't work out with him and this other girl and he learns his lesson that sometimes its not the right decision to just run away from a relationship to go to something new. Its NOT always better. I hope he falls right on his a**. Ok so maybe I'm a little bit bitter.... Don't be surprised if he calls you up again once he realizes that the grass isn't greener and that this other girl has faults just like everyone else in the world. Ugh.
Author NiCoLe20 Posted January 4, 2005 Author Posted January 4, 2005 yea i know!!! he already has pulled that with me the first time we broke up. We took a little break, like a month or so, then he starts texting me saying how much he misses me, and how he's always thinking of me, and yup i'll admit- i fell for it. it was b/c he started something with this other girl and he told me it just didnt feel the same as it did with me. im pretty sure he realizes that no other girl will put up with the sh-t i did, and no other girl will care about him as much as i did... hey - you never know there might be that time where he finds someone, but i doubt it will be soon! lol - but anyways - who knows if he'll come back again... but im not taking him back ! ive learned my lesson lol and im done with him! thanks guys for ur imput it helps!
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