This is going to sound horrible...but I think I'm regretting not having sex with her

[Stryker101]

Looking for some non-judgmental thoughts on this, because it's going to make me sound horrible to some. (perhaps moreso to women)

 

I dated a virgin for about 10 months (she was 19 when I met her and turned 20 about 3 months in). Yes close to a year...how I did it I don't know but during that time I promised I was going to be a "good guy" as I was a self-admitted douchebag at the time and had no care in the world for other girls' feelings. I was 23 at the time and had the experience of 6 sexual partners.

 

Let me tell you for some reason I still think about this girl...and a huge part of it is because I DIDN'T take any of the countless opportunities to be her first. I still don't know why I didn't...was it to be respectful...did I really care for this girl to the point of making sure she was ready...why didn't I? What was holding me back? Especially considering if a girl throws herself at me I take the opportunity with no regret. Yeah some of the normal virgin after-effects are something to consider, but I have no doubt in my mind if she came up to me again today and was still a virgin I'd do it in a heartbeat.

 

Some may say I lost my chance...others say I'm a good guy for not doing it as we eventually broke up a few months later...others argue I'm horrible for sex being one of the reasons I still think about this girl. Anyone ever had a similar situation where they regretted not having sex with someone?

Edited December 11, 2013 by Stryker101

[nerdlingZA]

Lol I was in the same situation as you are , she was 16 & I was 17 , we were both virgins , I didn't even care much of sex as I asked her once , she wasn't ready she said , but as soon as we broke up she dated a 25 year old who has probably took her virginity & will impregnate her in a few months time. I used to regret not sexing her but now I don't care. That feeling of regret will pass in a few months time.

[Stryker101]

Yeah, its just amazing how much value one can put on sex. It's almost as if I feel immature when I think of past sexual partners as notches on a belt. In the grand of scheme of things there are millions of other women out there, but I'll never know why I didn't seize that opportunity.