joanofark Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I love my om. I am about a month from being D. this is the hardest time in my life to get through. OM keeps telling me to be patient. i am. but it is torture. he is at a stand still. he really has no idea what to do. i am not willing to stop any part of our relationship. and he knows this. what a disaster this has turned into. we are perfect when we are together but "other" people always get in the way. he gives me everything. i give him everything. i just cant take it anymore. i think i am losing my mind. haha. omg. how pathetic......
whichwayisup Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 OM or MM? Is he married as well and divorcing his wife to be with you?
Author joanofark Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 mm..... only time will tell....
JustJoe Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Stuff is hard, because you have made it so. Answer me this, did you work as hard and worry as much about your marriage as you do the MM? Has the MM ever given you the idea that he is going to D? Deceit is very time consuming, lies require a lot of maintenance. You feel sorry for yourself, but your wounds and worries are the result of your own bad decisions. 7
experiencethedevine Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I love my om. I am about a month from being D. this is the hardest time in my life to get through. OM keeps telling me to be patient. i am. but it is torture. he is at a stand still. he really has no idea what to do. i am not willing to stop any part of our relationship. and he knows this. what a disaster this has turned into. we are perfect when we are together but "other" people always get in the way. he gives me everything. i give him everything. i just cant take it anymore. i think i am losing my mind. haha. omg. how pathetic...... Of course you are, you are living in a self obsessed 'bubble' of infatuation.................. He cannot possibly give you everything, nor you him. That is as unrealistic as your private world together. He has a wife, you a husband. Impossible. He keeps telling you to be patient because he isn't leaving his wife, and has absolutely no intention of giving up anything! Most likely including you, until the proverbial hits the fan. And believe me, hit the fan it will........... 2
Author joanofark Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 oh, the walls have already been filled with the s@#t hitting the fan. just a tiresome day.
Author joanofark Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 @justjoe i did work hard at my m. and my family. alone. because my h was so absent that it was ridiculous. we disconnected severely more than 5 years ago.i am not sure the union was ever the right thing to do. i just didnt have the balls to divorce him before i fell in love with someone else....
Daisy2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 @justjoe i did work hard at my m. and my family. alone. because my h was so absent that it was ridiculous. we disconnected severely more than 5 years ago.i am not sure the union was ever the right thing to do. i just didnt have the balls to divorce him before i fell in love with someone else.... Oh, hugs to you. I could have written these exact words and I am considering D with or without MoM for these reasons. I hope you find happiness with what you do. It's so difficult, I know. 1
JustJoe Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 @justjoe i did work hard at my m. and my family. alone. because my h was so absent that it was ridiculous. we disconnected severely more than 5 years ago.i am not sure the union was ever the right thing to do. i just didnt have the balls to divorce him before i fell in love with someone else....I would advise you to end your marriage and work on your personal issues, as a single person. Why would you think that cheating is a valid option?
MissBee Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 I love my om. I am about a month from being D. this is the hardest time in my life to get through. OM keeps telling me to be patient. i am. but it is torture. he is at a stand still. he really has no idea what to do. i am not willing to stop any part of our relationship. and he knows this. what a disaster this has turned into. we are perfect when we are together but "other" people always get in the way. he gives me everything. i give him everything. i just cant take it anymore. i think i am losing my mind. haha. omg. how pathetic...... Other people aren't getting in the way. You're not star-crossed lovers. You made a choice to divorce...so can he. Difficult as it may be, it can be done and if it isn't being done it's a choice he's making, not random "others." Please be realistic and keep that in mind. 6
Whisper Quiet Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 MissBee said it well. Read it over and over and over.....
Artie Lang Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 we are perfect when we are together but "other" people always get in the way. like who..... his wife? 3
JustJoe Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Yep, the OP and her OM would have a perfect life , if it wasn't for those pesky spouses.
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