Willusmile Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 So some of you know I was dumped in July by my bf of 5 years. I've been NC with him for about 6 months now. Blocked him on social media, friends don't bring him up around me etc and he has made no attempt to contact me at all. Recently however, I was involved in an accident a few days ago. Luckily I was fine with no serious injuries. Not two days after the accident he texts me for the first time asking about my phone. We are both in the same phone plane still (he is the account holder) due to financial constraints but our contract is up in January. He asks me why I haven't been using my phone very much and if anything's wrong with the phone to let him know. I had a moment of weakness and texted him back. I explained my phone was fine, and there was nothing wrong with it.He texted back to please let him know if anything was wrong with my phone and he hoped I was OK. My friends think this is very suspicious of him to ask me about the phone usage. Part of me thinks this is a breadcrumb, and most unfortunately I gave him exactly what he wanted by responding. Any thoughts or opinions LS?
flight E Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Don't think u did anytin wrong don't jst overanalyse it. Contnue nc 2
fixing Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I should just take it for what it is. An absolutely pointless question he ask's 6 months later about your phone. Nothing else. Call it a breadcrumb if you want. You did nothing wrong though by simply answering his question. Presumably the account is in his name? No more though. You answered his query, now go back to NC and dont be drawn into some boring mundane small pointless chit chat.
Author Willusmile Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Don't think u did anytin wrong don't jst overanalyse it. Contnue nc I have quite a bad habit of overanalyzing things. It just threw me for a loop after 6 months. Kinda a shock to my system you know? But thank you for the advice. 1
Author Willusmile Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 I should just take it for what it is. An absolutely pointless question he ask's 6 months later about your phone. Nothing else. Call it a breadcrumb if you want. You did nothing wrong though by simply answering his question. Presumably the account is in his name? No more though. You answered his query, now go back to NC and dont be drawn into some boring mundane small pointless chit chat. Yes the account is in his name. And I did not respond the second time when he said I hoped I was ok. I already felt really guilty for answering him the first time. Not going to lie though, it was quite a shock to see him text me.
StyleOnEm Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Sounds like he's snooping around, checking call logs. Kinda creepy. Probably heard from the grapevine you got into an accident & didn't want you knowing about it, so he was baiting you by asking a "random" question about your phone.
Author Willusmile Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 Sounds like he's snooping around, checking call logs. Kinda creepy. Probably heard from the grapevine you got into an accident & didn't want you knowing about it, so he was baiting you by asking a "random" question about your phone. It was a little creepy once I thought about it. However he hasn't tried to contact me again and i am changing my number soon so hopefully no more of this will happen.
headinthecloud Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Try not to let your mind spin. You answered a legitimate text. And yes, it was a breadcrumb of sorts, he was fishing to see how you are. He obviously still cares about you, but not enough to have a relationship with you. His guilt is likely what he's struggling with so stay NC. You will get through this. Stay strong. You're doing great.
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 What I will always stand by: When the past calls, don't answer, it has nothing new to say. Don't talk to him. You owe him nothing. It's over. It's the past. Slam that door shut and don't look back. They are a stranger again and they don't deserve to know crap about what's going in our life.
Author Willusmile Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 Try not to let your mind spin. You answered a legitimate text. And yes, it was a breadcrumb of sorts, he was fishing to see how you are. He obviously still cares about you, but not enough to have a relationship with you. His guilt is likely what he's struggling with so stay NC. You will get through this. Stay strong. You're doing great. Thanks for the vote of confidence. I still wished I hadn't answered him though. I'll probably be kicking myself for a while over that one.
Author Willusmile Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 What I will always stand by: When the past calls, don't answer, it has nothing new to say. Don't talk to him. You owe him nothing. It's over. It's the past. Slam that door shut and don't look back. They are a stranger again and they don't deserve to know crap about what's going in our life. It was easy when he didn't contact me and then when he texted again it was so tempting to try and slip back into that comfortableness of him knowing what was going on.You're right though, I don't owe him anything.
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