Softie Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 We had it so good for the main, so connected on so many levels. We had so much fun. He said I am amazing even after breaking up. He admitted he was so stubborn and that was the main reason for the break up. Why did he leave? I'm so low I don't want to be here, I don't want to be unloved. 1
forgetmenot75 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I'm sorry you're hurting. Being rejected t's the most painful feeling ever. He might think you're amazing, and you two might have had a lot of fun together. HOWEVER, he might not have romantic feelings for you. He might like you, like to be around you...but if he's left you, he's probably not in love with you. It's life. You can't do anything about it. Grieve your loss, and when you feel ok, start to do things for yourself, and move on. you'll find someone else, for sure. 1
LostConfused123 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Yes, rejection hurts like nothing else. My self esteem was really shattered for a while. Still is a little. . . well, sometimes a lot! I have to keep telling myself just because one out of millions of guys rejected me, doesn't mean there is anything wrong with me (nothing wrong with him either) He, for whatever reason wants something I don't have. Still hurts but I know I have many qualities that someone else will absolutely love about me. You will too! ((hugs!!)) 1
Haydn Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 My heart goes out to you but stubborn is why he had to break up? Rejection is one thing but rejection from a fool is cruel. Take care. 1
Author Softie Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Rejection from a fool is the worst. It was easier with a previous ex as they slept with someone on the evening of day we broke up so I knew that was total deal breaker plus we never were that connected. But this one was different, we were so connected, I've never laughed so much with someone, had so much in common and been so happy, until he stated to pull away with avengance.
organizedchaos Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Rejection from a fool is the worst. It was easier with a previous ex as they slept with someone on the evening of day we broke up so I knew that was total deal breaker plus we never were that connected. But this one was different, we were so connected, I've never laughed so much with someone, had so much in common and been so happy, until he stated to pull away with avengance. If it's any consolation, this kind of break up is not uncommon. Happened to me too with my ex gf. sucks I know when it happens for apparently no real reason.
stillafool Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Listen just because he broke up with you does not mean you are going to live the rest of your life unloved. You will fall in love again with someone else and they will love you. What you are feeling now is normal. It sucks but you will make it through to the other side. 2
ponchsox Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 We break our own hearts sometimes by setting unrealistic or too high an expectation of the other person. 3
Author Softie Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 I sort of agree but if OP sets the tone that they love you will never hurt you, etc etc it's very hard not to let yourself love. It's his birthday tomorrow, the nice person in me wanted to send a card but I decided against it. I won't text either I may feel low but I've already fought harder for him than I ever thought was possible and it was all for nothing. I was nothing to him but a passing phase. A gap filling person. Just wish I'd not let myself feel love for him, left when i knew something wasn't right. Hard to do though when you'd do a lot for love and happiness.
Haydn Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Hey you are on the right track ok. These feelings will fade with time. Its hard work but you are at the right forum. People has helped me so much over the last 5 months here. I was where you were at. Its better now and i am out and about again. Take care friend. I sort of agree but if OP sets the tone that they love you will never hurt you, etc etc it's very hard not to let yourself love. It's his birthday tomorrow, the nice person in me wanted to send a card but I decided against it. I won't text either I may feel low but I've already fought harder for him than I ever thought was possible and it was all for nothing. I was nothing to him but a passing phase. A gap filling person. Just wish I'd not let myself feel love for him, left when i knew something wasn't right. Hard to do though when you'd do a lot for love and happiness. 1
LostConfused123 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 We break our own hearts sometimes by setting unrealistic or too high an expectation of the other person. That is so true! Never thought of it like that. I actually wrote that down and taped it to my bathroom mirror. Thanks! 1
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