Greeneiz Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Basically I had issues and was not happy with myself we broke up and after we broke up I did what a lot seem to do and go full on begging/pathetic. I really regret doing that, texting, calling, writeing, ect. Looking like a fool. Do girls ever get past that? I don't think she will forget it just hope she knows that was a really bad time in my life and was a bit much to handle at that point.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Oh sure, they know breaking up is hard to do and brings out the worst in people. It's human nature. I would rather go out with an appetite than showing apathy. This is because we care, we were committed through good and bad. They will look back and remember that. You think you "blew it." You pleaded. Regardless of what you may have done, it wasn't worth it to her to communicate with you and address it. She chose to end the relationship. You're worth a partner who is equally committed to the relationship. Someone that will stay by your side through the bad times of your life. I dumped my ex in the past multiple times, it was purely out of anger and only lasted a couple of days but she begged and pleaded. In the end it didn't matter what they do, the only things that matter are the reasons they end it in the first place. These reasons is what they will remember, not your behavior post break-up. When I went back to my ex it didn't matter that she begged or not, I would of gone back regardless because of my own feelings.
LostConfused123 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I have had a guy do all the "classic mistakes" with me and no, I never look back on him as pathetic or weak. I look back on him and wish him nothing but happiness. I always hoped he would find a wonderful woman. I'm sure he has, he's a great guy and that's what I think when I look back on him. He's probably living an awesome life with a great woman because that's what he deserves. I think we have all made the classic mistakes at one time or another so when they are done to us, we don't really judge. We all know how it feels to do that so we kind of understand. ((hugs!)) 2
Iguanna Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I am pretty sure that I would "like" it if my ex (for whom I might still have feelings but broke up with him for not so important reasons) would do all these things to show me he loved me ad wanted to make things right. Some women indeed find these things pathetic, I disagree, I find them natural and human, I can't relate to people who don't show feelings, I want people around me who show emotions, who show it when they are in pain, when they are hurt, these are the people I can feel close to. If you did all these things for me and I had a will to take you back, you would have convinced me, given of course that you would do some changes and compromises to make things right and not only stay at words and texts and promises. 1
Mondmellonw Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I have been in both sides of the story, so yeah. We forget about it, so we can try not to think that we hurt you. If we left, we surely (almost everytime, but not all) don't want to go back, so the last thing we want to know is how you're dealing with it. And if you reach us, we'll ignore it, in order not to feel guilty abour hurting your feelings... It might sound a little selfish but is not. If you are gentile, you won't like to break someone's heart. And if we still feel something towards you, then no, it's not silly at all. (That's just my point of view).
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