frank petty Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Some guy Facebook messaged my girlfriend last nnight and said she should come over for a quickie. She didn't reply and told me about it right away. I trust her but I did get mad a bit. Not at her but him for messagingher tthat when it shows we are together She got a bit annoyed that I was upset because she said it shows I don't trust her. Like I saidiIdo , but I don't like the fact he asked her that Was I wrong to get mad
mammasita Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 yeah you're wrong - she told you. You have no control over him. Who cares?
Author frank petty Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 yeah you're wrong - she told you. You have no control over him. Who cares? I wasn't mad at her
Author frank petty Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 What should I have done this Sit there and say oh cool?
emva07 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 you are entitled to your feelings, anyone would be bothered if a random person asked that of our SO, so no you are not wrong. If you took it out on her, then yes, you are wrong.
Madman81 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 You were wrong to get mad at her. She didn't reply and told you about it right away. She did absolutely the right thing. One thing further though -- if this guy is a FB friend of hers, she should unfriend him. Keeping him as a FB friend would be inappropriate, since he's clearly not a "friend of the relationship", i.e. somebody supportive of the relationship and not trying to undermine it. 1
Author frank petty Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 You were wrong to get mad at her. She didn't reply and told you about it right away. She did absolutely the right thing. One thing further though -- if this guy is a FB friend of hers, she should unfriend him. Keeping him as a FB friend would be inappropriate, since he's clearly not a "friend of the relationship", i.e. somebody supportive of the relationship and not trying to undermine it. I did not get mad at her. I was mad at this dude. Because it says we are together. It's disrespectful and I was upset
emva07 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Well there a lot of cheaters out there and those who test people to see if they are. Good news is your gf failed his test and passes yours.
Author frank petty Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Yeah I just want people to realize I wasn't mad at her. I'm glad she told me but I think if everyone was in my situation you would have been mad at the person who asked 1
d0nnivain Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Because you placed your anger in the right place -- at him -- not her, I don't see a problem. That guy saying such a brazen thing was not cool. She also should have deleted the post immediately & shot him down . . . hard. While she has no control over what somebody else does, she does control how she reacts to it. I'd ask her nicely to drawer clearer more brightline boundaries out of respect for you. This is not a trust issue. It is a respect issue. Even though she didn't take the guy up on his offer, which means she is trustworthy, she didn't stand up for you or your relationship which makes her less than respectful. When you are calmer, discuss this with her.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Yeah I just want people to realize I wasn't mad at her. I'm glad she told me but I think if everyone was in my situation you would have been mad at the person who asked Of course. You have a right to be pissed at the guy. I think we probably just misunderstood who your anger was directed at, since you stated that your GF was annoyed. What did you say to her?
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