lamaga Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I've been on 6 dates with this guy. We are slowly but surely moving towards a relationship kind of situation. he's not really a social media kind of fanatic, barely texts me, usually calls or just shows up in front of my door (he lives one street away), but sometimes we communicate via facebook messaging... however, we are not Facebook friends. it just never happened, and i feel it should have happened when we started going out, but now is this awkward moment where you just don't want to see all those pictures and all those wall posts from other people, etc... not sure ... does he not want to be Facebook friends? why? does he just not care? does he feel awkward about it as well? we have 16 mutual friends (due to us studying the same programme), but i feel like i would feel defeated if he declines my request or wouldn't accept it and later tells me some weird excuse as to why this wouldn't be a good idea. i kind of like it this way myself - i am getting to know him in real life, and that's just wonderful. but do you think there could be a reason, as to why he wouldn't want to be Facebook friends? maybe he is not serious about us after all?
Emilia Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 He just turns up on your doorstep but isn't comfortable connecting through facebook???
PegNosePete Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Why don't you just send him a friends request and see what happens? No need to over-think it.
Author lamaga Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Why don't you just send him a friends request and see what happens? No need to over-think it. Yeah, maybe... Maybe I should...
Author lamaga Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 He just turns up on your doorstep but isn't comfortable connecting through facebook??? I KNOW RIGHT? I wonder what that means. Maybe he has made bad experiences with being Facebook friends with people he is dating? I feel otherwise he would have done so already...
URNotAlone Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I would send the friend request. If you are heading for a relationship he should not have anything to hide. If he does not accept I might rethink the whole relationship thing.
Emilia Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I KNOW RIGHT? I wonder what that means. Maybe he has made bad experiences with being Facebook friends with people he is dating? I feel otherwise he would have done so already... You should just send that facebook request.
Author lamaga Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Ok, i've done some "research" and saw that he just added a guy i hung out with yesterday. i find this extremely weird... i told him i hung out with that guy, he added him but not me? what? i am gonna send that request now! jeez.. 1
PegNosePete Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 He really should sort out his facebook security He's letting people who are not his friends, see who he adds and hangs out with? That is not a very good idea. All security settings on facebook should be "friends only" at the most.
Author lamaga Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 He really should sort out his facebook security He's letting people who are not his friends, see who he adds and hangs out with? That is not a very good idea. All security settings on facebook should be "friends only" at the most. I could see it on the profile from our common friend.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I've been on 6 dates with this guy. We are slowly but surely moving towards a relationship kind of situation. he's not really a social media kind of fanatic, barely texts me, usually calls or just shows up in front of my door (he lives one street away), but sometimes we communicate via facebook messaging... however, we are not Facebook friends. it just never happened, and i feel it should have happened when we started going out, but now is this awkward moment where you just don't want to see all those pictures and all those wall posts from other people, etc... not sure ... does he not want to be Facebook friends? why? does he just not care? does he feel awkward about it as well? we have 16 mutual friends (due to us studying the same programme), but i feel like i would feel defeated if he declines my request or wouldn't accept it and later tells me some weird excuse as to why this wouldn't be a good idea. i kind of like it this way myself - i am getting to know him in real life, and that's just wonderful. but do you think there could be a reason, as to why he wouldn't want to be Facebook friends? maybe he is not serious about us after all? You could probably do well to not press such an issue, and perhaps you wouldn't find any directly "incriminating" reasons for not cross-friending on Facebook, but the typical everyday banter on and around Facebook could let either of your minds run away with you. Maybe he is just sparing himself the ease with which he could quench that urge to look. If you're in a serious relationship, you probably shouldn't even have Facebook in the first place... so if you're headed in that direction, well, you're bound to reach a moral impasse sooner or later. Were this without reason, then to cross-friend would be fine at this point, but what could be the upside to so doing??? 1
Author lamaga Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 You could probably do well to not press such an issue, and perhaps you wouldn't find any directly "incriminating" reasons for not cross-friending on Facebook, but the typical everyday banter on and around Facebook could let either of your minds run away with you. Maybe he is just sparing himself the ease with which he could quench that urge to look. If you're in a serious relationship, you probably shouldn't even have Facebook in the first place... so if you're headed in that direction, well, you're bound to reach a moral impasse sooner or later. Were this without reason, then to cross-friend would be fine at this point, but what could be the upside to so doing??? I agree. Also, have decided to not friend-request by now. Not gonna happen. Will not do so. Will just live real world love life instead.
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