HeartBorken Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Well I'm 20 and about 4 months ago my 2 year relationship with my Ex ended (GIGS which lead to cheating) (This was also my first serious relationship) i was left devastated but working out at the Gym,getting a new job & hanging out with friends really helped me get my confidence back together. The thing is i want to start dating again in fact there are a few girls who are interested in going out with me but i don't want to get back into a serious relationship at the moment. I enjoy being independent (My Ex left me without clothe because she threw them all away and put me in $1000 credit card debt) I managed to reinvent myself with the clothes shopping and i am steadily paying of my debt. I do want to date but i don't know how to let them know i am not looking for anything serious. (The reason for this is because to an extent i am scared of being vulnerable to getting hurt again) So any advice on how to go about this? I'm not at all simply looking for sex... Just want to be careful about who i let close to me.
URNotAlone Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 So any advice on how to go about this? I'm not at all simply looking for sex... Just want to be careful about who i let close to me. I have been there. It can be very difficult to start over especially when you have been hurt. In love and life there is never a sure fire way to protect your heart. You are so young. The best thing you can do is make friends with new girls and through friendship you will find mutual attraction with someone new. If you let the fear guide you then you will stay in a place that will hold you back. Caution is always a good thing just don't be afraid to love again. Best of luck to you.
ken_25 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Just go out and have fun! That's what you need. Have fun with new and different women. Don't put pressure on yourself, don't put pressure on any new relationship that could possibly form into something more. Relax. And if someone comes along and blows you away, embrace that. It might scare you, but that's not really a bad thing.
Author HeartBorken Posted December 12, 2013 Author Posted December 12, 2013 Thanks for the advice. It helps and she threw out my clothes because after i found out she was cheating i told her to never contact me and stay out of my life. (We had broken up 1 month before and she had yet to send me my clothes and i didn't like the idea of keeping in touch)
OrangeSnack Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Hoes will always be hoes. F that cheating biatch. Don't feel bad bro. Be happy that you found out early on. Imagine if she was doing it while you guys are married or have kids. Unfortunately in order to have fun you have to spend a little. My honest opinion is to first take care of yourself. Get yourself financially stable and at the same time don't lose track of the girls you want to potentially date. I can see that you're a good person so treat women with respect and don't be afraid to ask for help! Good luck.
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