d0nnivain Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I am a firm believer in NC as a healing tool but I also don't think one size fits all & NC is always the best response. I also think it is a terrible idea if kids are involved. When the topic is discussed, many people seem to believe that if you have futher contact with an EX -- be it a request to get back together, good wishes on a birthday or holiday or even a snide remark as a parting shot that you are giving up your power, letting them win & ruining your future. I think there's a middle ground. I think it can be healing & empowering for the hurt person to toss off one final shot, to get the last word so to speak. I think for some people a more gradual dissolution of the realtionship works better for them & helps to come to terms with the fact that it was over. What do you think?
PegNosePete Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 The trouble is that final shot / last word will most likely not be the final shot / last word. The ex will no doubt respond to it. What then?
Author d0nnivain Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 If the speaker has said all that they need to say, then there is no need to respond.
PegNosePete Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Nice theory. Doubt it would work like that in practice.
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