jbr91 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 So long story short, I broke up with my girl, then wanted her back to which she didnt want to (we've been officially broken up for 4 months or so). So I sent her an apology/closure letter a month ago, and I havent been in contact with her since then. Until.... a few nights ago she calls me at 1 in the morning and says "I've been thinking about you...." I replied in my usual manner and playful tone "oh shut up" like a flattery type tone. She then just hung up on me, no goodbye, not even a single word?! wtf is up with that? Since then I tried calling her back and finally i sent a text stating that it was fine if she didnt want to talk to me but that she should tell me so instead of ignoring me after calling and saying that she was thinking of me. anyone have any thoughts on this? is what I said really that much of a cause for her to hang up on me like that?
notthathard Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Hard to say what the other is thinking but maybe she was just checking to see if you were also thinking of her too. I think you did the right thing with that "oh shut up". She might call again in the near future. Until then I would NC it.
Sososad Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 i think you handled it ok..id leave her be for now your definitely on her mind so id wait it out see what she comes back with. could be a happy Christmas for you yet ..
TylerDurdenn Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 When did she say that she misses you? Or are you twisting her words?
RDawg Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I think the correct reply in this situation would have been 'I miss you too'..
Art_Critic Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I think the correct reply in this situation would have been 'I miss you too'.. I'll agree with this, if he wanted her back and missed her that is. I think when he didn't say he missed her she feel like a fool and hung up, embarrassed. It's all about expectations, she was expecting a different reply than she got.
Chi townD Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 She told you she missed you and you told her to shut up. She took it the wrong way. 2
organizedchaos Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 She told you she missed you and you told her to shut up. She took it the wrong way. Agreed. Playful or not, that must have taken some courage for her to call you and say that.
2fargone Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I would have said 'That's nice to hear'. Not that I miss her too wtf... That's already giving too much at such a point. Acknowledge her feeling, nothing else.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 (edited) You ****ed up brah, why act like you're on a page from the past, be yourself and act on your present feelings which is broken up and that's not a time for jokes with the person in question. Acting like the past just makes her think you haven't changed. She definitely took it the wrong way, I wouldn't know what to say to that, it's too out of place. It doesn't matter anyways they always miss us in the twilight hours. The next morning she would of woke up and brushed it off her shoulder. Edited December 11, 2013 by MoooOinkBaaa
Keenly Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 We don't have the context. Maybe the way he said it is an inside joke from when they were together. 1 am I suspect she was drunk.
Chi townD Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 We don't have the context. LOL! Not giving you a hard time, dude. But you NEVER, EVER seen a girl take anything out of context? 1
Keenly Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 LOL! Not giving you a hard time, dude. But you NEVER, EVER seen a girl take anything out of context? Of course. But my ex and I had things we said that people would call abusive, but we thought it was funny. I'm not sure about her, I was referring to LS.
forgetmenot75 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Yeah, you should have said "I miss you too" AND "I want you back, desperately". Anyways, what's done it's done. What you can do now, if you haven't done it already, is let her know that you miss her indeed, and that you are open for a dialogue or whatever. She'll decide if she really wants that or not. After all, you dumped her, she has all the rights to not want to talk with you anymore. and she can still miss you but not want to be with you anymore. 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Forget about her she just missed you, she never said she wanted you.
organizedchaos Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Forget about her she just missed you, she never said she wanted you. Because he never gave her the chance by telling her to shut up. He should have stayed silent and let her do all the talking.
fixing Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Well, you obviously want her back. And the fact that you dumped her, means you need to be making more of an effort in letting her know that. I know you were just being playful. But 4 months apart is a long time, and she just plucked up the courage to say i miss you... Send her a text, nice and short 'You know i miss you too honey' Leave it at that. If you dont hear from her, then stick to NC 1
Author jbr91 Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Thanks for all your insight fellas. I'll just start by saying that for the longest time I've been desperately trying to win this girl back...I've showed up with flowers, tried everything, I've begged and clawed my way to be in her arms again but she just said no. So she definitely knows that I want to be with her. I've always been the not so serious type. my response was not just a "oh shut up" it was a very playful flattery type tone. Granted in our relationship I'd always do **** like this because, well thats just who I am. I have texted her, and I called her back but she wont answer or respond. I just feel like hanging up like that is just plain rude in general. It's just annoying because a few weeks ago she told her parents that we were completely done and I have been finally starting to move on and realize that us not being together was for the best. But I guess the majority of you are right on this one.... it was just a drunken call that doesnt mean anything... I was pretty drunk at the time she called as well. So i'll just leave her alone....like i have been
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