daizy Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 This guy started talking to me a month ago, I thought he was cute so we hung out a couple times. I heard some things about him through friends that turned me off but I decided to get to know him and judge for myself, and he seems different from what others have said. He told me how he used to be an as*hole before but then his dad passed away 2 years ago and it changed him. He dropped out of college and went through depression. All he does now is just chill and sell weed, and I don't think he's BF material but I know he wants to change and feels like a failure. I just got out of a really long relationship myself and said the next guy I date I want him to be motivated and more figured out... but I'm stuck now between pursuing this guy or stepping back. I feel drawn/close to him anyways, he has a lot of personality and he's a lot of fun. We've already been on dates and slept together, I told him I want it casual but I know he prefers a relationship. Any advice?
OrangeSnack Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 So really you just want to be this motherly figure to him? You pity him because he lost his dad. You want to change him because you see the good side of him and he makes you laugh? Well I don't know. I personally think it's a waste of time and I hate to bash on him but only he can change himself. I think you want a relationship that's healthy and understanding. I don't think he fits that category.
Author daizy Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 So really you just want to be this motherly figure to him? You pity him because he lost his dad. You want to change him because you see the good side of him and he makes you laugh? Well I don't know. I personally think it's a waste of time and I hate to bash on him but only he can change himself. I think you want a relationship that's healthy and understanding. I don't think he fits that category. That's exactly what I don't want to play this "motherly figure". I don't pity him though, his situation just helps me understand him better. I think you're right about the rest though.
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