Stryker101 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 (edited) I think the worst part of this is everyone always gives me compliments like "wow David, you cope with things real well!" or "Wow it's like David moves on so quickly!" It's been over a year and I still think about my ex.. The problem is we all hate feeling vulnerable...and I think this is something most women don't realize...but this is truly a MUCH worse thing for MEN to deal with. I think I have built up so much of a tough guy persona that I feel embarrassed if I tell anyone I'm still hurting over this girl. It's especially worse when she still talks to my mom and I act like it's no problem. I mean I can't really blame her for keeping in contact if I keep telling her it's no problem...but man oh man...if I don't let out the truth to my fam and friends I feel like this is going to be a barrier for me in truly getting over her. :/ It doesn't help that she's been invited to my sister's baby shower either..ugh. Long story short: I'm finding it impossible to let my fam/friends know how much I miss this girl since she's constantly around so much and knows my best friend (I met her though him) Edited December 11, 2013 by Stryker101
strive Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 It's been over a year and I still think about my ex.. I'm sorry to hear this. I'm guessing it's partly because you never did do real NC, which is why it's still affecting you this much. The fact that she's always there, well of course you'd think about her a lot. Is the tough guy act more important than telling your family that you're not comfortable seeing/hearing about her all the time?
notthathard Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 You might need to let your feelings out, doing this by yourself is hard and takes a long time as you have experienced. I would find someone close(that doesn't know her) that you trust and let everything go. Having her around is going to delay things a lot. You need to find some way to distance yourself from her. As a man I got over my ex quite quickly, everyone is different and depending on the situation and how much you loved her.
vassilbg Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I feel ya man, I've been there. Its tough, and you can't help but hold on to hope because she is around and you think that feelings will change... they COULD, but its unlikley because as of right now, you are a constant in her life. You need to get away from that. I've lingered in one of my ex's life and all that did was frustrate the crap out of me, and helped her meet the guy she is currently with. We no longer talk, though we are 'friendly' when we see eachother.
Fangorn Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 The bravest thing you can do is tell her up front to stop talking to your mother or vice versa. I don't know what happened with you guys but it's over, so tell her to start acting like it. There's no shame in a guy having emotion, it's how we deal with it that separates the men from the boys. Toughen up and ride it out dude, you'll get there one day.
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