JonSolo Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 After dating my gf for 4 months she decided to tell me that she was in a 2 year relationship with a guy and it ended badly when she got pregnant and he left her. She decided to have an abortion and said took her about 6 months to recover mentally and emotionally. This was pretty hard for me to digest but I decided not to judge her and move on with our relationship. A month later she decided to tell me that, after her breakup with her Ex that impregnated her and left, she started to date this guy for about 6 months till he dumped her. And this guy she dated for 6 months was her Ex's BROTHER! I'm trying to digest this as well but I don't think I can. I mean what kind of person would think you could have a functioning relationship with the brother of your Ex who impregnated you and left you causing you to get an abortion. What does this say about her morals? Until she told me this, I really liked her and was starting to build a serious relationship. But now I'm not sure. what else is she hiding and what other mistakes have she made? Or am I making this bigger than it is? Thank you all in advance, Please advice.
kiterider12 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 i have issues thinking about two buddies dating the same girl (but it happens!). Two brothers pushes ME to the edge. Your situation....you seem so uncomfortable that you will put more effort into getting over the facts than anything thing else.
Author JonSolo Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Do you think I'm making a big deal about this? Or is it just me?
ShyGuy5 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 It obviously bothers you if you brought it up. The thing is once you see something you can't unsee it and in this case, this is going to be floating around in the back of your mind for a long time. You need to decide am I okay with this or should I drop her because this won't go away.
Author JonSolo Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Yes, it does bother me (maybe I can get over it or not). But I would like to get an unbiased opinion of the situation. I'm in too deep to see things clearly at the moment.
ShyGuy5 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Yes, it does bother me (maybe I can get over it or not). But I would like to get an unbiased opinion of the situation. I'm in too deep to see things clearly at the moment. You need to spend some time with yourself and think about it. is this a deal breaker for you? Is this something you can get over? We can shout directions from the back seat, but you drive the car, not us. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Ha morals...many women often don't operate off morals but rather emotions and needs also known as crazy irrational thoughts, the lines blur quickly and easily if there were any to begin with. Don't think of them as innocent, they know what they're doing...she probably hoped the brother would stay if she got pregnant and then she fooled around with the brother as a bit of revenge or to stay part of that family unit...not a lot of light-bulbs were going off so don't expect logical explanations to the impulsiveness of a woman's behavior, it all depends on how she felt then and what she was going through. She's going to likely have a history if she does things like this...she sounds dumb to be honest or "naive", however you want to say it. And chances are high it's because she's very insecure. Good luck lover boy, you might be a daddy soon too! Jk! Kind of.. 1
crederer Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Yah it's odd. It definately shows she has some sort of esteem issues or emotional issues. It's hard to be in a relationship with someone like that. It may have just been a brief rebound thing, but it's a red flag for sure.
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