crazybestie101 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Today i have kind of come to realization that i want to just forget my ex. Whenever i try to think about him , i just feel like what a loser and coward he is. There is just no point of me making myself angry. I just want to forget him and whatever i had with me. I possibly never want to see him again , never want to hear from him again except an "Apology". I don't wish him well , i don't even want to wish him anything. I just wish he disappeares and i wish i never met him.
Author crazybestie101 Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Well, you're asking for the impossible. Short of you hitting your head and getting amnesia, you won't forget an ex. You need to find a way to make peace with it. He doesn't owe you an apology, that's just dating. It's a brutal, bloody endeavour. Just chalk it up to a life experience and practice feeling indifferent to it. It's a part of the fabric of what makes you, you. Your problem is, you're still not over it. You still think he's going to pop up and want another chance, or give you an apology, or whatever. And I bet if he asked, you'd give him another shot. I'd suggest you try dating. Get online, make some dates, and start putting it behind you properly. I am sorry but he still owe me apology not because he dumped but for some other reasons. May be for other people it was just dating , for us it wasn't just "dating". We are kind of people once we decide to date someone , we will definately give it all to make it work to relation and possibaly marriage. Again people have different definations for dating. Any ways , i am very fine being single , i can live up with this pain alone. I definitely not want to get into dating zone again. Right now, i just want to concentrate in my school and get into dental school.
mrlost Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I know exactly how you feel crazybestie. I just want to forget my ex as well.. everytime I see her it annoys me a little. I'm at uni and we have a lot of mutual friends so I see her every now and again at parties. I just want to stop thinking about her and feel nothing towards her 1
mrlost Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Also, hope you'll get over him soon and get into dental school. 1
BC1980 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I am sorry but he still owe me apology not because he dumped but for some other reasons. May be for other people it was just dating , for us it wasn't just "dating". We are kind of people once we decide to date someone , we will definately give it all to make it work to relation and possibaly marriage. Again people have different definations for dating. He might owe you an apology, but you have to accept that life is often unjust. I don't think how my situation turned out was "fair," but that's life. My ex's first wife died, and that certainly isn't fair. I don't know why things happen as they do, but we can't go around demanding fairness. Much of life is how we react to what we are given. There is so much we cannot control, but we can control our reactions to situations. Sometimes, that is all you can control. I thought I would marry my last ex, but it didn't happen. I'm not going to walk around bitter at the world for the rest of my life because of one person. I understand that you are angry, and it's normal. I went through anger as well, but we can't wallow in it. Feel it, get mad, vent to someone, but don't let it persist. Be the bigger person, and go on to have a happy life. There is so much in life that is wonderful. Why spend it ruminating on another person and wanting an apology? Live in the now, and enjoy each day. 1
BC1980 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Well, you're asking for the impossible. Short of you hitting your head and getting amnesia, you won't forget an ex. This is true. You can't forget your ex, so the only option is, like guitarheroine said, to make peace with it. Find a way to live with it. Try to give some meaning to it, and find the good in it. As times goes by, you won't think of him nearly that much. One of my good friends was with a guy for 6 years. She is married, but she still thinks of this guy from time to time. She has learned to take the good from it and only wishes him the best. You make peace with it somehow. I know you are hurting, but we are all going through it. Memories are part of the war wounds.
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