OverThinker72 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Wow nearly 5 months since it ended and the last three days have been full of pain. My life is very different now. I have a new job, new friends and lots going on. I should be estatic! But the last three days all I've done is cry over something I thought I had overcome. He has tried to contact me 27 times and I have ignored every attempt. I blocked him but he keeps changing his number. I feel myself becoming weak. I still love him but I can't go back to that pain again. How do I move on from this? It hurts so bad. Please help. Hugs from a very cold London xx
FortunateSon Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Well, if it makes you feel any better, you are fortunate to live in an amazing city! It sounds like you have done a fantastic job thwarting his attempts at contact, don't stop now! As someone who has been broken up for 6 months after a 6 year relationship, my ex recently contacted me and I can tell you NOTHING, I mean NOTHING, good came from it. The initial elation of hearing from them again, was replaced with more questions, confusion, false hope, and hard feelings. I feel like I am back to square one. I regret responding. You have done well to stay NC, is would be a shame to break it now. Keep it up, better days are ahead!! 1
RDawg Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 27 times? Shame it sounds like he really misses you. Did you dump him?
millymollymandy Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 (edited) You should be so proud of yourself! New JOB new FRIENDS! and you've been strong enough to resist his numerous and persistent attempts to get in touch with you. Wow! You are one strong girl who is building up a great life and moving up and onwards! I wish I had your strength when it comes to ignoring texts (...and not sending them also). Keep it up and don't worry about feeling like you've fallen back a few steps - that's completely normal, recovery really is quite the rollercoaster ride - 2 steps forward one step back, 3 steps forward one step back, then one day you realise you haven't stepped back for x amount of time and you really are finally over them! Edited December 11, 2013 by millymollymandy typo
L1ght Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 (edited) Interesting. I bet from his perspective he thinks you have a heart made of stone and he probably thinks you don't love or care abut him at all......but then we all get to see what's really going on inside your "cold heart". You are dying to contact him and are torturing yourself. But yeah anyway time heals everything and the longer you ignore him the more life moves on, the quicker he will give up and the sooner the 2 of you will become strangers again. Edited December 11, 2013 by L1ght
RDawg Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I would reach out to him at this point. He has proven himself to be persistent which is a valuable trait. How do you know if there's a chance at reconciling if you don't respond to his efforts?
L1ght Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 (edited) I would reach out to him at this point. He has proven himself to be persistent which is a valuable trait. How do you know if there's a chance at reconciling if you don't respond to his efforts? Don't encourage her. She will obviously crush the guy again if she lets him back into her life. She says she loves him yet has pretty much tortured him by ignoring all his efforts for so long. I think it's in his best interests if he stays away from her as she will leave him high and dry again when she realises she is too weak to "go back to that pain again". She is too weak to fight to keep the love alive with someone she actually loves. Moving on is the best solution for everyone concerned. Edited December 11, 2013 by L1ght 1
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