mikejensen3355 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I know people say the pain will become less intense over time, but does it ever go away completely if a person chose someone else over you and is really happy? It's just a terrible feeling. I know people say sometimes the ex comes back when you finally have moved on and you get to tell them that you've moved on now, but that doesn't always happen. I don't know how to live with the fact that there could never be redemption for this. I could go on to live a happy life, but I may never get that moment where she regrets what she did to me. I feel like that's always going to eat at me forever.
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I know people say the pain will become less intense over time, but does it ever go away completely if a person chose someone else over you and is really happy? It's just a terrible feeling. I know people say sometimes the ex comes back when you finally have moved on and you get to tell them that you've moved on now, but that doesn't always happen. I don't know how to live with the fact that there could never be redemption for this. I could go on to live a happy life, but I may never get that moment where she regrets what she did to me. I feel like that's always going to eat at me forever. Aw I know. Same here. After 3 years, I don't know how to forget him. You aren't alone. I feel sick and lost. Like I don't know who I am at the moment.
fixing Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Of course it will pass. Your feeling the horrors of rejection, humiliation right now, and your obviously not over her yet. That will all pass when you continue to stay no contact, meet new girls, better yourself. Swallow the pain for now, it will naturally pass. But you will never get any kind of answers to the questions you seek from her. Make your own closure. She chose someone else? **** her then, they deserve eachother, you on the other hand deserve someone better!
InnocentMan Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Some scars will stay with you forever. Time can make them less painful, but they are there nonetheless. Trying to not become bitter, and untrusting is the real battle for people that feel they've been wronged. Becoming like this will ensure you stay in pain for much longer than is necessary, and can affect all your future relationships. No human is indispensable (family aside), including your ex. Getting your head around this will go a long way to you becoming fully healed. Learn the lessons, understand what you may have done wrong, and try put it all down to experience, which should make you a wiser, and much more rounded individual. If all else fails, get a cat, and mourn the loss until your dying days. 4
MoveAlong Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 My 3 year relationship ended a little over 6 weeks ago. The pain has significantly subsided. Do I still love her? Yes. Will I still love her? Probably, but I'll move on regardless of how I feel about her.
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