JohnWill69 Posted January 2, 2005 Posted January 2, 2005 Do you think its wierd for a guy to want to wait 4-6 weeks before having sex, the first time with her? Or how soon do most people have sex, the first time?
7on Posted January 2, 2005 Posted January 2, 2005 Depends on the woman with me. Some women are sexphiliacs and some wait till marriage.
SoleMate Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 I sure hope you're not running your sex life by Gallup poll. The right time to have sex is when both people are ready and willing, and have prepared for the consequences, and can't resist the attraction. That may take 20 minutes or 15 years. I would really need more info to advise you.
JohnWill69 Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 I just seems these days that too many people jump too soon into bed with each other... Without really getting to know the each other. I don't know maybe its just me, but I think if a women gives in within a month of dating she is easy. I mean come on, play a little hard to get... It just seems all the women I have dated lately want to have sex right away.
Naive Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 It really depends on a lot of things. Personally I think that if you do it to soon the relationship loses its magic soon, but it really depends on how much you like each other. I have been with 2 guys and I waited a long time.
allen10981 Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 it doesnt matter, if your ready, go at it, if not, then back off. Wait for both parties to be ready to do it And how can you say a girl that gives it up in under a month is easy? My current girlfriend is 22 and ive been seeing her 6 months, we had sex for our first time in 3 weeks of dating. The catch is she has only been with one other guy, and maybe had sex 15 times in her whole life. How does that make her easy? Its called LOVE, not EASYNESS.
TotallyUsed Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 It just seems all the women I have dated lately want to have sex right away I guess sometimes we feel its expected of us. I personally think it would be incredibly sexy to go out with a guy who wanted to wait! Gee I'd be climbing the walls and totally mad for him!!!! Hot hot hot! BUT... that would only work with good communication, I personally have low self esteem and would immediately think you didn't find me attractive/sexy if you didn't have sex with me! But thats me in my own little world! I think if you made it clear (somehow) that you prefer to know a person better before you have sex with them, that first time would be all the more special. At least the girl will know you're not jumping into bed with anyone, anytime. Good for you I say!
7on Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 Originally posted by TotallyUsed I guess sometimes we feel its expected of us. I personally think it would be incredibly sexy to go out with a guy who wanted to wait! Gee I'd be climbing the walls and totally mad for him!!!! Hot hot hot! BUT... that would only work with good communication, I personally have low self esteem and would immediately think you didn't find me attractive/sexy if you didn't have sex with me! But thats me in my own little world! I think if you made it clear (somehow) that you prefer to know a person better before you have sex with them, that first time would be all the more special. At least the girl will know you're not jumping into bed with anyone, anytime. Good for you I say! Good advice.
Groovy Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 Damn John, I like your posts you've made. Live around here? Lol. I agree women have sex too soon these days and it's ruined a lot. Men like challenge whether they admit it or not. They wonder "who else is she sleeping with, do I want to be involved with her?" And women put out mistaking lust for love and don't really know the guy. Though sometimes it's pure sex, usually a girls heart is more involved than she cares to admit. I have opportunities but it's been a long time. Usually it's all the guy wants and there's that old saying "Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free" (or something like that.) A lot of women are putting out, expecting nothing...even a phone call later. So why pay for dinner, call her through the week, cuddle and wait, etc? Some men date me long enough to appreciate me and a LTR happens. But sometimes why hang out with me when there's plenty of slutty girls to fill that immediate need? A guy did that last week to me and I gave him the boot. Any guy who wants sex right away, too bad. And if they said they'd care or wouldn't judge me, they can still wait. They can say we are exclusive. Let me hear it for some time and then I'll believe him. I'd much rther have a guy say he's seeing other people, let's just be friends for now. Because then I know he's honest and considerate. Men are fixated on sex enough. They should be encouraged to wait so a friendship can develop and once they know her appreciate it a lot longer than one night.
JohnWill69 Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 The posts I put up recently involved the same girl I dated this past month. She was like all over me cause I was playing hard to get. I would make out with a few times and leave cause it was work nights and since it was still too early I thought. I could of got more if I would of put out more $$$money$$$ . And I even told her I want to take it slow and she agreed, but three days later she was jumping my bones. No, I wish, l did live in Florida a lot nicer weather than Wisconsin. We just got 10 inches of snow and fat chicks gloried.
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