Getting dumped on New Years, and he taped the whole thing with out my knowing!

[Carleigh23]

New years eve was probobly was the best new years of my life. Spent it with my bf of 2 years. Had the best midnight kiss and watched fireworks,

 

'till 3 in the morning. Got in a huge blow out and just like that its over. Im feeling like crap and cant understand why we finished. I was planning

 

on giving him a couple days to cool off, but i caved in and went to see him last night. Im the kind of person that isnt all for sitting around and

 

letting him call me, or come back to me. I beleive in workign it out and talkign abotu it. I hadnt planned on crying and sobbing irratically, and

 

begging hands and knees the whole 9 yards, for him to take me back. I called him to see what he thought, and his answer was I hadnt really thought

 

about it much, oh FYI hes sick with the flu. I know he loves me, hes just mad, but i cant just let it go and sit and stew for a few days. I love him more

 

then anything, we had planned on getting engaged in the spring, Thats why its so hard to just not talk or "work it out". He makes it like its all me

 

that needs to change, he doesnt see anyproblems with his actions, at time physical. No Im not a battered wife by anymeans. But he lost his rag on

 

newyears and his whole family, sisters and brother in laws were all here, and they all said he was out of line, He says I drive him to act the way he does

 

and if we wernt together he would be caine. Not likley. Just tell me im not going crazy someone! O BTW He secretly set up the video camera while we were fighting in the kitchen to show what "im like when drunk" But he was the one yelling and flailing his arms like a mad man. Kinda backfired on the guy

[moimeme]

He says I drive him to act the way he does

 

Right there is a huge red flag. If his own family says he's out of line, and he sees the film of himself and still thinks you're the problem, run like hell. This is an abuser in the making. Abusers blame everyone else but themselves for their problems, and particularly for their anger. You do NOT need this kind of sick in your life. Be thankful that he dumped you and go find yourself a normal human.

[lulu1]

I hope it works out for you. Maybe he just had a few to many. let him fet better and sit down and talk with him. If he is abusive to him, run like hell. You dont need it, it only get worse.

good luck