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MrCastle Established Member

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Read this the other day. So some women are shallow. No surprise. Men are shallow too sometimes.

 

Being five seven and a half and living in the nyc area all my llfe it makes sense why women here arent attracted to me at all

 

I'm 5'7. I do alright ;)

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PJKino Established Member

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Read this the other day. So some women are shallow. No surprise. Men are shallow too sometimes.

 

 

 

I'm 5'7. I do alright ;)

 

But according to this site men are so much more shallow then women lol what bs

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But according to this site men are so much more shallow then women lol what bs

 

Well, the article does specify that this is when it comes to online dating. As we all know, or should know -- online dating is almost exclusively looks based. And both men and women alike can enter criteria that they feel is important. Someone left a comment on that article (a tall man, no less) that only 25% of men in this country are six foot or over. Clearly not enough to be partnered with all women -- and you take into account personality chemistry, facial attractiveness, if the guy is even single to begin with, if he's even attracted to the girl to begin with, etc and you have a very small pool of tall men for individual women out there. So of course online that is what they're going to look for simply because they don't see/get enough of it in day to day interactions. I don't see many six foot tall men in my day to day life. Average is called average for a reason.

 

If you think your height will hold you back, it will. If you don't think it will, it won't. It's all a state of mind. No woman dates a guy for height and height alone. No woman you'd want, anyway.

 

James Dean was between 5'7 and 5'8 -- you think he had a problem with the ladies? You think, famous or not, women would turn down James Dean because he wasn't six feet tall?

 

If you're a catch, you're a catch, no matter your height. Conversely, if you're not, you're not.

 

Or maybe that's just been my experience. I haven't really dealt with terribly shallow women. I know they exist from what I read on here, but in real life I've not seen it. None of my friends are six feet or over, they range from short to average and they all get dates.

 

I was not made aware of the height thing until coming onto this forum.

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PJKino Established Member

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Well, the article does specify that this is when it comes to online dating. As we all know, or should know -- online dating is almost exclusively looks based. And both men and women alike can enter criteria that they feel is important. Someone left a comment on that article (a tall man, no less) that only 25% of men in this country are six foot or over. Clearly not enough to be partnered with all women -- and you take into account personality chemistry, facial attractiveness, if the guy is even single to begin with, if he's even attracted to the girl to begin with, etc and you have a very small pool of tall men for individual women out there. So of course online that is what they're going to look for simply because they don't see/get enough of it in day to day interactions. I don't see many six foot tall men in my day to day life. Average is called average for a reason.

 

If you think your height will hold you back, it will. If you don't think it will, it won't. It's all a state of mind. No woman dates a guy for height and height alone. No woman you'd want, anyway.

 

James Dean was between 5'7 and 5'8 -- you think he had a problem with the ladies? You think, famous or not, women would turn down James Dean because he wasn't six feet tall?

 

If you're a catch, you're a catch, no matter your height. Conversely, if you're not, you're not.

 

Or maybe that's just been my experience. I haven't really dealt with terribly shallow women. I know they exist from what I read on here, but in real life I've not seen it. None of my friends are six feet or over, they range from short to average and they all get dates.

 

I was not made aware of the height thing until coming onto this forum.

 

Ive always said mens ideal women physically is much more diverse then women..womens ideal starts with tall and goes from there

MrCastle Established Member

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Ive always said mens ideal women physically is much more diverse then women..womens ideal starts with tall and goes from there

 

Hmmm. I agree that, it seems the "ideal" physical type for females is usually very typical, and the same for the most part. Very little deviation, where it seems there are men who like big girls, spinners, and everything in between.

 

Having said that though, in my experience, women are more likely to date guys even if they don't fit their ideal physical type. More willing to give that guy a chance, than a man would do for a woman if she was not his physical type.

 

For all this talk about tall, muscular men, my short and skinny ass does well. And by well I mean, I like where I'm at. I can't complain. I am where I'd like to be.

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Fixed.

 

BIG CITY WOMEN DON'T LIKE MEN WHO READ COSMO

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MrCastle Established Member

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Fixed.

 

BIG CITY WOMEN DON'T LIKE MEN WHO READ COSMO

 

Or drink cosmos either for that matter. There is no manly way to hold the glass.

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So what? Everyone is entitled to have their own preferences. You are not owed a gf from life.

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I have no issue with people having preferences but please stop acting like men are so much more shallow than women because it is just a lie. At least admit that we are really no different.

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What a load of old ******. Don't believe anything Cosmo says. I work in the print industry, they'll say any old crap to sell their magazines. Mr Meadow is considered short (5ft 9in) and stands only an inch taller than me, and I don't mind it at all! Two dudes that I dated in NY were shortstacks too, and I fancied them both lots :)

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FrankieFrank Established Member

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I have no issue with people having preferences but please stop acting like men are so much more shallow than women because it is just a lie. At least admit that we are really no different.

 

I don't care who's more shallow, gender wars are retarded, period.

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Im from nyc and the same height as you and never had a problem,old is mostly shallow vapid women try to meet women somewhere else

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I prefer shorter men over taller, just not shorter than me (166 cm).

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There are shallow men.

There are shallow women.

 

There are men who have strict preferences who may not be shallow.

There are women who have strict preferences who may not be shallow.

 

You have no control over any of it, so focus on finding the potential partners who would be happy to date you.

 

And let go of the men vs. women crap. It's highly unattractive. Much more so than being short.

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PJKino Established Member

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There are shallow men.

There are shallow women.

 

There are men who have strict preferences who may not be shallow.

There are women who have strict preferences who may not be shallow.

 

You have no control over any of it, so focus on finding the potential partners who would be happy to date you.

 

And let go of the men vs. women crap. It's highly unattractive. Much more so than being short.

 

Problem is women try to shovel the garbage that theyre alot less shallow then men which is clearly nonsense

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Problem is women try to shovel the garbage that theyre alot less shallow then men which is clearly nonsense

 

I'm a woman, and I don't shovel anything.

 

If some women shovel, who cares? Doesn't matter what those women think, and their beliefs don't dictate reality.

 

You are focusing on the wrong thing. If you go out into the world angry at women, you are never going to have success attracting them.

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I'm a woman, and I don't shovel anything.

 

If some women shovel, who cares? Doesn't matter what those women think, and their beliefs don't dictate reality.

 

You are focusing on the wrong thing. If you go out into the world angry at women, you are never going to have success attracting them.

 

Im not angry i just simply know what im up against because of womens extreme shallowness

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Im not angry i just simply know what im up against because of womens extreme shallowness

 

 

Nah...you got it wrong, bro...

 

Some women and some men are shallow, some women and some men are fat, some women and some men are ugly, etc.....

 

To adopt the attitude that all women are shallow is just dumb...

 

TFY

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regine_phalange Established Member

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Im not angry i just simply know what im up against because of womens extreme shallowness

 

There, there!

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How is this all about "who is more shallow"?!?! If you're trying to prove your gender is less shallow, you're never going to win that argument, period! EVERYONE has at least a little bit of criteria when it comes to physical attraction!

 

BTW I'm 6'2" and I love it. :D

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Im not angry i just simply know what im up against because of womens extreme shallowness

 

Like I said, those are not people you'd want to date anyway. Anyone who sets a physical range is not worthy of dating.

 

If men are out there saying "I only date women x boob size and above," they're shallow. If women are out there saying "I only date men x height and above," they're shallow.

 

Wouldn't you much rather meet someone who says "I'll date whoever as long as I find them attractive and we have a connection?"

 

Because both men and women like that exist.

 

I don't look for anything specific. I take a wait and see approach to dating. I don't go out there explicitly looking for one physical type. And there are women out there who do the same.

 

What you must realize is not all women are shallow. Hell, in real life, I can't think of any. I have met all kinds of women and have seen them date all kinds of men. They exist. You just have to believe that they do. Having a bitter attitude will not help you. Again, coming from a 5'7 man who's dated women of varying heights. Half of whom were taller.

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OK so? Men don't like fat girls. Heck, many men today don't even like slightly chubby girls!

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OK so? Men don't like fat girls. Heck, many men today don't even like slightly chubby girls!

 

Most women dont like fat men either add in height and women have more physical demands

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Ur reasoning is off..

 

Yes women PREFER tallness. Just like

Men PREFER a girl to have boobs or a pretty face

 

Preferences do not indicate shallowness, they are just preferences. It would be shallow to refuse to date a short man regardless of liking his other qualities like if he was perfect in every other way except he was short and that doesn't happen. Women may say they prefer tall men (no duh) but when faced with a shorter man who is great they would RARELY actually turn that down.

 

I have physical "flaws" that are not what a man prefers and to help explain myself ill let know that I have smaller than average boobs. The difference is is that I don't sit there and blame men for preferring big boobs because it even makes sense they would prefer big boobs. I actually spend no time whatsoever being angry at men for not liking that part of me. I chose not to think about that because I have other qualities that makes me a good catch and I realize that no one is perfect..

 

I don't see why you don't see that it would seriously benefit you to change your mindset on this.

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