have_faith Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Hi all, my ex girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago after 7 years being together. After the broke up, we met 3 times to talk, and each time, I ask whether is she currently seeing someone new? She would firmly say "NO". However, I do have her email's password and she knows about it. I can't help to stalk her and found out that she is writing some sort of love letters to this girl. So I can confirm that she is currently seeing someone new and it makes sense to me why she is so heartless and mean to me when I didn't cheat or physical abusive to her. I called her to ask about it. I did not say that I checked her email, but said that my friend saw her and a girl being together. I also told her that if she is currently seeing someone new, just tell me and I will really leave for good. But she still say "NO" I don't think she is trying not to hurt me further because she already hurt me deep. So can anyone, especially female, can let me know why is my ex girlfriend lying that she is not in a new relationship even after I asked so many times? The reason why I'm asking this is because I still want to give our relationship a last try. My ex used to be an lesbian before we were together and every time we speak after the breakup, she would show angry tone.
WhoreyBull Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 To me, liars are always out to cover their backs. If you caught her you can know she isn't in it for you anymore. I am so sorry, but it seems like she is keeping you as a backup.
glimpse Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 There could be many reasons why she kept her new flame from you. 1, she doesn't want to hurt you even more than she already did. she doesn't want you to feel replaced so fast even if she's just doing it out of familiarity of having someone there. 7 years is a long time and she probably got used to having someone to lean on. 2, as you stated she used to only like females before you, that's why she gets defensive when you ask her about her new interest, she might feel bad about trying to change. you should try to get your mind of of her, keep yourself busy and stop accessing her emails. It'll only keep hurting. I know it's hard, but you need to move on.
Going4it Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I agree. She could have any number of reasons for keeping the new relationship from you. But this doesn't sound like an indication that she wants to get back together with you. It sounds like she is trying to move on. You have got to stop breaking into her email. If she wants you back, wouldn't she let you know in a more direct way?
TylerDurdenn Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 You sound a bit crazy, I don't blame her.
Author have_faith Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 Actually i know that it is not right to check on her email and I have stopped doing that. To be honest, all i want is her being happy no matter who she with. But at the same time, I do hope that we can have a last try and really wants to know the truth. That is why it is kind of confusing me because she always tell me to leave her alone and I told her that if she is really seeing someone new, just let me know and i will leave for good. But she didn't. So from my point of view, maybe she still have feeling for me and don't really wants me to leave for good. If that's the case, maybe I will wait caused she is really special to me and worth the waiting . If not, I will move on and wish her all the best. Any advise?
Never Again Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Actually i know that it is not right to check on her email and I have stopped doing that. To be honest, all i want is her being happy no matter who she with. But at the same time, I do hope that we can have a last try and really wants to know the truth. That is why it is kind of confusing me because she always tell me to leave her alone and I told her that if she is really seeing someone new, just let me know and i will leave for good. But she didn't. So from my point of view, maybe she still have feeling for me and don't really wants me to leave for good. If that's the case, maybe I will wait caused she is really special to me and worth the waiting . If not, I will move on and wish her all the best. Any advise? She told you to leave her alone. Listen to that. The rest of it is fluff. If she's got any feelings, they're her business and you've got no right to know. You refuse to leave her alone, so she's not telling you about her life. Is that any real surprise?
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