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Top Reasons Women Leave Men?

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JourneyLady Established Member

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Physically abusive

Verbally abusive

Infidelity

Emotionally abusive (you forgot) (ie. Gaslighting/Controlling)

Emotionally unavailable

Unemployed (or not working)

Lack of spark/chemistry

Erectile dysfunction

Never Again Established Member

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Lack of spark/chemistry

 

I see this very often from both sexes, though a little more so from women.

 

That "spark" of attraction is just "how you feel" about your partner I guess. Beyond love, it's that yearning feeling. That indescribable, gut level attraction.

 

It's the illusion that people say makes them believe their partner is "the one", or they "just know".

 

It's a lot of work to maintain that stuff, but everyone seems to imagine that you should "just feel it" all the time for it to be right.

 

Personally, I think that stuff comes and goes, ebbs and flows...but then again, I was dropped as soon as the initial spark wore off.

SincereOnlineGuy Established Member

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Infidelity is probably the top reason women leave their husbands.

 

I'm guessing the second most common reason is neglect/emotional disconnect.

 

Addictions.

 

Physical/emotional/verbal abuse.

 

Chronic unemployment is likely often a factor.

 

Unable to resolve conflicts in an acceptable way.

 

Those are probably the primary reasons people divorce.

 

I doubt ED is the issue, since that can be remedied with Viagra or other similar medication.

 

 

 

Get real! "lack of communication (between spouses)" tops "infidelity" by many fold.

Never Again Established Member

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Get real! "lack of communication (between spouses)" tops "infidelity" by many fold.

 

Well, lack of communication often leads to many other problems.

 

Including infidelity and lack of "spark" I'm sure.

 

As a prime mover, it's a big one.

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I don't know if I can agree that lack of communication TOPS infidelity any day. Two people can have a connection (or at least one of them thinks they do, because they are all IN the relationship, the caring, the effort) and the the other person just likes the attention they are getting but aren't truly committed because they just ENJOY attention...and oops...my penis just fell into this vagina....but I know we were communicating about needs...I know you had some, and I don't know why I never really cared to consider them...and well,....hmmm, I think I found mine....maybe...but could you wait around and let me test drive the Yugo a bit, kick the tires..you know...not sure if I want to completely leave my Mercedes.

 

Oh!! Sorry darling, the Mercedes just left the building.

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Physically abusive

Verbally abusive

Infidelity

Emotionally unavailable

Lack of spark/chemistry

Unemployed (or not working)

Erectile dysfunction

 

I am a little undecided as to whether infidelity or emotional unavailability is worse. A one-time accident fling probably wouldn't be anywhere near as bad as long-term emotional unavailability. And yet, emotional availability is subjective, and less clear-cut. Infidelity is black-and-white and obvious.

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Physically abusive

Verbally abusive

Infidelity

Emotionally unavailable

Lack of spark/chemistry

Unemployed (or not working)

Erectile dysfunction

 

 

Mine would be in this order too

SincereOnlineGuy Established Member

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I don't know if I can agree that lack of communication TOPS infidelity any day. Two people can have a connection (or at least one of them thinks they do, because they are all IN the relationship, the caring, the effort) and the the other person just likes the attention they are getting but aren't truly committed because they just ENJOY attention...and oops...my penis just fell into this vagina....but I know we were communicating about needs...I know you had some, and I don't know why I never really cared to consider them...and well,....hmmm, I think I found mine....maybe...but could you wait around and let me test drive the Yugo a bit, kick the tires..you know...not sure if I want to completely leave my Mercedes.

 

Oh!! Sorry darling, the Mercedes just left the building.

 

 

Think of it like a death certificate. Despite numerous maladies, the coroner is responsible for naming the root cause of death.

 

Infidelity is never the reason for lack of communication. Yet lack of communication is the reason for infidelity in countless relationships.

amaysngrace Established Member

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Lack of communication doesn't make a man hit his wife.

 

Just saying.

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Meatballsmom Established Member

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My marriage of 20 years, only verbally abusive applied, we had lost the spark decades before.

 

Also add control freak, alcoholic, the end came when he pulled a knife on our 16 year old daughter

findingnemo Established Member

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I'm going to list several reasons why wives might leave their husbands. If you are a woman, please rank these 7 reasons in order from MOST significant to LEAST significant in your mind:

 

Unemployed (or not working)

Emotionally unavailable

Infidelity

Physically abusive

Verbally abusive

Erectile dysfunction

Lack of spark/chemistry

 

Thanks for feedback!

 

Physically abusive - I couldn't handle it. 3 strikes and it was over.

 

Verbally abusive - This one can eventually morph into the physical, so a dealbreaker too

 

Emotionally unavailable - no point in being together if no effort is made to change

 

Infidelity - if there are no kids, assets, etc then a deal breaker. If there are then all hell breaks loose but there is a chance if he is truly repentant.

 

Erectile dysfunction - Right now would become a serious problem but can be mitigated if all else is well. However, some sort of agreement would have to be reached on how to live with the condition.

 

Lack of spark/chemistry - I assume this is a new development as I wouldn't be M without chemistry. So with some effort, could work.

SincereOnlineGuy Established Member

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Lack of communication doesn't make a man hit his wife.

 

Just saying.

 

 

 

Yeah, and lack of communication doesn't "make" a wide-receiver drop a pass down field either...

 

 

but he sure would've stood a better chance of catching said pass had he known prior to the play that the ball was headed in his direction.

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I'm going to list several reasons why wives might leave their husbands. If you are a woman, please rank these 7 reasons in order from MOST significant to LEAST significant in your mind:

 

Unemployed (or not working)

Emotionally unavailable

Infidelity

Physically abusive

Verbally abusive

Erectile dysfunction

Lack of spark/chemistry

 

Thanks for feedback!

 

 

I think not being a mind reader should be at the top of the list.

 

I have done none of these things yet I was walked away from without her even trying to communicate that she had any so called "issues" with me. Funny how I kept asking her what is going on, was she mad at me, did I do anything to upset her, is there something that I haven't done right? Each and every time she would tell me it was allways something else. Not one time did she ever bring up that, "yes, I am actually upset about this, or I was really hurt when you..."

 

I also think that when someone else enters the picture is also when a woman may decide to leave.

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NYWoman Established Member

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Another one that should be added is the persuasive OM's, who can induce the woman into turning a molehill glich in the marriage into a mountain. Then once he has the wife's ear there is nothing the H can say to change her mind until it is too late

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Yeah, and lack of communication doesn't "make" a wide-receiver drop a pass down field either...

 

 

but he sure would've stood a better chance of catching said pass had he known prior to the play that the ball was headed in his direction.

 

Not the old "marriage is like a football game" analogy again...

violet1 Established Member

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The number 1 reason I'm planning for divorce is because my husband can NOT hold a job. He goes into a depressive funk and does not try to look when he's unemployed. I currently have two jobs working 60-65 hours a week while his a$$ is at home. It's very stressful and has made me become resentful. Constantly worrying how you're going to pay the bills is so emotionally draining. The other reason I'm leaving is no longer love him the way a wife should love her husband. I want a husband not a roommate.

 

He did cheat on me early in the relationship and I was able to forgive him although it was hard. If cheating is a one time thing I can forgive. I had a very abusive childhood so I will NOT tolerate any form of physical or verbal abuse. He one time called me the C word, which I despise more than anything. I told him if I'm such a c*nt, he can get the f*ck out. I always told him if he ever hits me I'll throw him jail and I'm dead serious.

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