When will I get out of this misery? This heartbreak is ruining my life

December 10, 2013

I don't think I should even be here. I just don't know where else to turn. Today, was my one of final straws, but I believe today is truly the last. I will try and keep my story short. I met my "ex" at work last summer. He was very straight forward with me from day one. This is my biggest regret. I should have believed him and not wished that I could change him. I am an average girl, and he was a really attractive man. He was the guy in the office that all the guys lusted over. When he expressed his interest in me, I thought I had hit the jackpot. I knew this was out of shear luck and nothing else, and I had to hold on to my prize even if it kills me.

As we were texting back and forth one day, he expressed that he was not interested in a serious relationship with me, in fact in only wanted friendship aka sex.Initially, I thought no way, and told him to **** off. But I remembered all of my loser ex boyfriends that I had, and he was pretty much everything I wanted in a man. He was smart, funny, attractive, confident, witty, and did I mention funny?! He was perfect, and I thought I would be an idiot to turn this offer down. We got into a friends with benefits relationship September of 2012. We became intimate on and off for 4 months. When I say on and off, I am referring to our "off periods" where I would end things because I wanted more and I was frustrated that despite all the love and support I showed him he still could not love him the way that I wanted him to.

But eventually I would come crawling back and settling for less than I wanted in hopes I could convince him this time. There was one time in particular, I thought it had worked. I ended things and I told him why I wanted things to end. Such as, he never took me out for drinks, coffee, breakfast. Just nothing, not only was I feeling insecure, I was feeling cheap so I had to leave for the little self-respect I had and my own sanity. I texted him one day to see how he was doing, and he sounded excited to hear from me after a month of zero contact. He came to my apartment to drop off my sweater I left at my house, while he was there, my parents were in town visiting so he came inside and spoke to them. While I was walking him to his car he gave me a hug and we kissed. I felt butterflies.

I told him that I missed us, and at first he was apprehensive because he didn't want to ruin our friendship that we just got back, and I told him that it wouldn't. Then he asked if we can meet up for drinks. That was one of my complaints remember? And I agreed. I knew for a fact he had changed, and this time we would come back together, but stronger. Then we began our "special friendship" again for another month until one day he told me he met another girl. This whole time I knew that it could and would happen one day, but when that blow of reality hits you, it comes with full force. Our arrangement was such that, we would not sleep with anyone else, and when anyone wanted out, they inform the other.Whenever I reflect back on the relationship, I always refer to that day as the beginning of the end. Our relationship was never the same since then. After a tearful night, I let him do his own thing. I didn't contact him for a month.

I was extremely depressed. That was when my addiction began. A friend referred me to a great psychic she knows that can predict the future. I regret that day almost as much as the day I regret agreeing to this relationship. $50 for a reading, she gave me great news. Accordingly, to the psychic he was in love with me, but he had underlying issues that caused him not want a relationship with me. I played the waiting game, as weeks went by and predictions time frames were passing by, I was determined to find an accurate psychic to tell me when we would be in a real loving relationship. The worst was a psychic-gypsy I paid$400 to clear the negative energy around us. She ensured this was not a spell because I do not believe in spells, and I don't want to be in a relationship with someone I have to use magic to trick into loving me. She claimed this was just clearing bad energy that was preventing this relationship.

Lets just say after conning me out of another $300 she took my $700 and disappeared. Well,one day I hit what I thought was rock bottom. I had to hear from him. Let me clear this up first, aside from our strange arrangement: we truly became great friends. We confided in each other about everything, we supported each others hopes and dreams, he told me about his fears and things that have hurt him in the past. We connected like a serious loving couple. That is why until this day I couldn't/can't understand. As I was saying, I had to hear from him. I texted him to see how he was doing. Again, he sounded excited to hear from me. He told me things with that girl didn't work out. I was a little on the fence with him now, I could no longer be as open and carefree as I once were with him. He shattered my heart when he let us go over that girl. It was hard to fully trust him again. We entered this weird phase of a friendship.

We tried really hard to stay platonic, but that didn't work. We got into our friendship once again. One of our final meetings, we had a great day. For the first time, I felt like we were a real couple (due to events and discussions we had that day) well, after that magical day we had, I never heard from for almost a whole week. I felt used, AGAIN. Until I told him. I had enough with this stupid arrangement,either he loved or he didn't. We didn't talk to each other for a couple weeks,until one day he called me asking if we can talk. I was very apprehensive, I didn't know what he wanted to talk about. He told me that he can't stay away from me, and we can't be mad at each other for long. I agreed to meet up with him. Once I got to his place, I felt off. I thought he would have drinks prepared or we would go out and talk over coffee.

I felt off when I was at his place and it was quiet. In the back of my mind I hoped that he had not brought me here to have sex with him. It was quiet, we were awkward. I asked him, "So what would you like to talk about?" And there was nothing. We looked at each other and we started kissing. I told him to stop. I wasn't doing this again. I asked him one last time, "What do you want to talk about?" He said nothing. I asked"So why did you bring me here" This time I was getting upset because my suspicions felt like they were true. I said, was this just a cheap tactic to get me to hook up with you? My tone of voice became angry. I told him, that he is not just sex to me, and he knows that, but you make me feel so cheap and unworthy of your love. And he said, "you are not just sex to me either." Well we ended up having sex.

When I got up to put on my clothes,I felt gross. I let him have it. I told him, "This was it. I know he brought me here to hook up with him. I knew he didn't want to talk. I called him a few names, and I told him I swear on my grandmother's life I am not doing this again. This was the end of him and I. I cried like a baby. I told him I wanted to be with him. I asked him why couldn't and didn't want to be me? What did I do? What could I do? I gave him everything I had in me. I told him that we can't continue to this and I didn't want to end this but if he doesn't want a relationship, I am going to have to walk away. He let me walk away. We didn't talk for some weeks until we agreed to be friends. I told him that I still really care for him, and I just want him to be happy. I wished him luck in finding a girl to fulfill his every desire that I couldn't give him.

We were friendly to each other for about a week. We still texted back and forth since,as I said, we had a good friendship. But after that week, we were texting one afternoon, and he never responded back. One month went by, I didn't hear from him. I went into severe depression, gaining 10 lbs, my face broke out in acne.I developed horrible anxiety. My only comfort were these psychics, I spent another $1500 on psychic readings for them to tell me something positive about my future, and if my love would ever come back. I even went to therapy, yes I was that depressed. It didn't really help. One day in August, 4 months of silence,I decided to text him to see how he is doing. Again, he seemed excited to hear from me. We spoke like we used to, joking, talking about life, etc. I believed we had both changed. I secretly hoped we would take things slowly and start seeing each other again. Well after a month of talking, he disappeared again.

I didn't hear from him for a month until one day he texts me out of the blue to see how I am doing. We talked for about a hour until we planned to meet up and watch a movie. He suggested we not just watch one movie, but we movie hop and watch a couple. I felt this was the start of something. Even when we were together, we never did things like this. We planned to meet the following Saturday. Well the whole week I had not heard from. I knew something was off.After not hearing from him the Wednesday of that week, I knew in the back of mymind that we probably weren't going to meet up like we planned. After all that excitement of planning to meet up it didn't happen. In fact, I never heard from him since. This was 2 months ago. Since then, my depression has been on and off. Some days I miss him other days I feel like I am moving on. Well I had a relapse a couple weeks ago. I started to miss him terribly again. I spent another $200 on psychic readings in hopes that I would find out something new.

This time I went into deep research on reputable psychics. Each of them told me that he would come back to me. Until this morning, I dropped another $50 for a reading, I spent another $100 last week on two different psychics. Both telling me he loved me, and he was coming back soon. This time he wanted a relationship. The psychic I spoke to this morning told me that he has moved on and he is involved in another girl. I broke down in tears. I didn't know who to believe. I realized, none of them are right. They all just wanted my money. I finally said enough is enough.

At this rate, I am going to end up broke and depressed. Oh just so you know, I am not some girl with tons of money. I had a savings because I was saving up to buy anew car, but I have blown most of them on psychics. I finally googled, "I can't get over my ex, and I am miserable", and here I am.

Wow, I thought this was supposed to be short. Sorry. I need any advice I could get. I just want to feel alive again. I have felt dead for the past 7 months.

Edited December 10, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

December 10, 2013

Allll that moneyyyy wastedddd on something so clear he doesn't want to be with you or he would its that clear.

I can't stop thinking about how many meals that cash would of bought :-S

December 10, 2013

First of all, the next time you post, please break it down into paragraphs. It was so difficult to read a huge block of text.

If you want to get out of misery, you have to make a choice to stop what you have been doing and do the hard work of going through strict NC. When will you get out of it? When you decide you want to because no one can help you do it but YOU.

Block his his emails, FB, etc. Every possible way that he can contact you, block him. Delete his number. Block him. Now.

It would serve you better to invest your money in therapy instead of fortune tellers. All that money you've spent HAS NOT gotten you closer to him nor has it allowed you to progress into a better place. All it has done is keep you addicted to hope and in misery.

He has told you from day one, he doesn't see you that way. The last time, he used you for sex. There is no one to blame except yourself. I'm not sure what else he needs to do for you to stop spiraling. This isn't love. It's an addiction. A sick dependence. Time to get your dignity and self-respect back.

December 10, 2013

It took me 7 months of pure agony post BU to acknowledge the fact that feeling this pain I've been feeling is my option, it's my choice if I choose to endure the pain or proactively do something to heal myself. I'm learning to take charge of my life and make better decisions for myself and my recovery process. Take charge of your life and make it count. We all know how excruciating the pain is, however, we also have the option to crawl out of this hole we were once in.

December 10, 2013

Ok, im sorry for not breaking this up in paragraphs. This is my first time on here and using forums. I attempted to break it up, but I was told I couldn't edit the post anymore.

Secondly, the first 2 responses were kind of harsh. I appreciate the honesty; however, there are several ways you can make a point. I may be reading too much into it, but the first 2 responses were not considerate that these were my actual feelings. Don't you think I know what I did was stupid. That is why I am in such deep depression, telling me I should not blame anyone but myself is insensitive, and I would rather not a response if you are going to make me feel worse than I already do. Isnt this place for support?

December 10, 2013

From my experience, if you don't love yourself first, don't expect others to love you.

He didn't respect you, and I highly doubt he will ever want to respect you after you repeatedly shown him how little respect you had for yourself.

For one, you went along with the whole friends with benefit idea and then you decided to cry foul even after you agreed to the whole arrangement.

I'm really sorry to say your misery is your own doing.

If you want help, seek therapy.

But most importantly, love yourself. Tell yourself you love yourself. Because honest to God, if you don't love yourself, nobody else will. Not even that low-life.

December 10, 2013

It took me 7 months of pure agony post BU to acknowledge the fact that feeling this pain I've been feeling is my option, it's my choice if I choose to endure the pain or proactively do something to heal myself. I'm learning to take charge of my life and make better decisions for myself and my recovery process. Take charge of your life and make it count. We all know how excruciating the pain is, however, we also have the option to crawl out of this hole we were once in.

Thanks. I understand. I believe I have developed as a person. There were things about myself that I had to deal these past 7 months that I have not addressed in years. It still doesn't negate from the fact that I developed a strong love for this person. Was it stupid of me? Yes, but you cant help who you fall for. This is how I know that I had/have genuine feelings for him. He has a job that is an 1 1/2 hour commute. I believe in prayer, every night I pray for only my mom, dad, my best friend, and him. Even after all of the things he has put me through, I pray that he makes it safe to work and makes it safe back.

Believe it or not, I commend myself for not crawling back to him this time. I put my foot down for the last time 7 months ago. It wasn't easy, and although I made stupid decisions trying to heal from the situation such as going to psychics, I still have to give myself the credit that I did not crawl back no matter how low I felt. That in fact shows a sign of growth. I swore to myself even when we planned to meet up that I was going to keep things simple and easy. I was going to let him work and prove to me that he was worthy of coming back into my life. Unfortunately, we didn't meet up, but it doesn't mean I didn't have plans as to how this would be different.

We got along like best friends while we were together. I am working on myself, and I have come a long way. But it still doesn't change the fact that I still love him. It is really hard. I wish I could explain it better:(

December 10, 2013

Sweetie. He's using you. To make matters worse, you letting him.

He fills your head with smiles, sweet talk and empty words and he knows that with enough of it you will fall for it.

This man is no jackpot. He's a user and an abuser of your mind and body and the sooner you start to realize that you deserve more than a con artist and he's conning you out of your clothes.

A wise woman told me once that a woman has only one thing to call her own and that's her values and once you let someone take advantage of your values for their own satisfaction then you have nothing.

Don't let this guy take any more. You can do way better than him and I'm telling you this a guy who has a lot of hash marks going down his sleeve. Get rid of this bum before he does real damage to you and believe me when I tell you that someday a good guy will come in your life and respect you and value the relationship he has with you.

Best of luck to you

December 10, 2013

Sweetie. He's using you. To make matters worse, you letting him.

He fills your head with smiles, sweet talk and empty words and he knows that with enough of it you will fall for it.

This man is no jackpot. He's a user and an abuser of your mind and body and the sooner you start to realize that you deserve more than a con artist and he's conning you out of your clothes.

A wise woman told me once that a woman has only one thing to call her own and that's her values and once you let someone take advantage of your values for their own satisfaction then you have nothing.

Don't let this guy take any more. You can do way better than him and I'm telling you this a guy who has a lot of hash marks going down his sleeve. Get rid of this bum before he does real damage to you and believe me when I tell you that someday a good guy will come in your life and respect you and value the relationship he has with you.

Best of luck to you

Thank you! that was the most understanding response I have received. I understand it was stupid of me. I really do. I have changed so much since things ended. However, my issue is that it is hard to hate him. I see all that he has done to me, but after all of this I don't hate the guy. I feel like I can't fully move on until I really hate him. That is my biggest issue.

December 10, 2013

Ok, im sorry for not breaking this up in paragraphs. This is my first time on here and using forums. I attempted to break it up, but I was told I couldn't edit the post anymore.

Secondly, the first 2 responses were kind of harsh. I appreciate the honesty; however, there are several ways you can make a point. I may be reading too much into it, but the first 2 responses were not considerate that these were my actual feelings. Don't you think I know what I did was stupid. That is why I am in such deep depression, telling me I should not blame anyone but myself is insensitive, and I would rather not a response if you are going to make me feel worse than I already do. Isnt this place for support?

I state that you should break it into paragraphs in order to help you get more responses. In that sense, it was necessary. Most won't read past the first few lines because it is difficult to follow. It was only to help you.

"Harsh" is the way you have allowed yourself to be treated. "Harsh" is how he's been treating you. I don't believe anyone called you stupid. That is your own perception of what was said.

Telling you that no one else is to blame isn't insensitive, it's a painful fact that you can't seem to grasp and is sensitive to because you've kept repeating your patterns over and over again hoping for HIM to help you out of your misery, when YOU should be doing that for yourself. You are the only one ruining your life and you are the only one that can release yourself from this misery.

I'm sorry I can't coddle you. Good luck to you. I hope you find yourself and stop allowing this man to control your life.

December 10, 2013

Ok, im sorry for not breaking this up in paragraphs. This is my first time on here and using forums. I attempted to break it up, but I was told I couldn't edit the post anymore.

Secondly, the first 2 responses were kind of harsh. I appreciate the honesty; however, there are several ways you can make a point. I may be reading too much into it, but the first 2 responses were not considerate that these were my actual feelings. Don't you think I know what I did was stupid. That is why I am in such deep depression, telling me I should not blame anyone but myself is insensitive, and I would rather not a response if you are going to make me feel worse than I already do. Isnt this place for support?

It is a place for support but you want people to lie to you? You're in denile and its costing huge bucks.

Posting on this site doesn't gauntee a feel better or answer. But truth from people that are clear headed outside of your situation and you are wasting large sums on thinking someone who doesn't want you will suddenly change someday, only difference from bubba's reply to others is they insulted your ex for you but in fact they broke down what is going on in even more depth and you thank them.

Once you get passed that you can start living again

Edited December 10, 2013 by Omei

December 10, 2013

I state that you should break it into paragraphs in order to help you get more responses. In that sense, it was necessary. Most won't read past the first few lines because it is difficult to follow. It was only to help you.

"Harsh" is the way you have allowed yourself to be treated. "Harsh" is how he's been treating you. I don't believe anyone called you stupid. That is your own perception of what was said.

Telling you that no one else is to blame isn't insensitive, it's a painful fact that you can't seem to grasp and is sensitive to because you've kept repeating your patterns over and over again hoping for HIM to help you out of your misery, when YOU should be doing that for yourself. You are the only one ruining your life and you are the only one that can release yourself from this misery.

I'm sorry I can't coddle you. Good luck to you. I hope you find yourself and stop allowing this man to control your life.

That's fair. Thank you for taking time out to respond.

December 10, 2013

It is a place for support but you want people to lie to you? You're in denile and its costing huge bucks.

Posting on this site doesn't gauntee a feel better or answer. But truth from people that are clear headed outside of your situation and you are wasting large sums on thinking someone who doesn't want you will suddenly change someday, only difference from bubba's reply to others is they insulted your ex for you but in fact they broke down what is going on in even more depth and you thank them.

Once you get passed that you can start living again

At what point did I ask anyone to lie to me? I simply said there are different ways to make a point. I have given appreciation to those that have been honest, yet sensitive to my feelings. The point of support is to be of help and aware of someone's feelings without the person feeling worse about their situation. Otherwise, I would tell everyone that I know. But obviously, I have kept this to myself to shield myself from harsh responses that will only make my self esteem worse. I have confided in my closest friends about this, but many are judgmental and do not offer sound advice. Only to tell me that "I put myself in that situation" Okay so now I want to get out. Now what? I am not asking you reiterate how I got myself into this mess. I already know that, I am asking for solutions as to how to get out it. Imagine going to AA and your support leader telling you "Well you know you made the choice to become an alcoholic" No ****, I admit I was wrong, and it was a bad choice, but the issue now is How do I become sober. That is all I was saying.

December 10, 2013

Hi Jen

I'm really sorry to hear about what's been going on - not just with this douchebag but with these fraudster fortune tellers that have ripped you off!

If it makes you feel any better, these charlatans can see lovelorn women coming a mile off and they snare many a vulnerable person this way. I'm assuming when you went to the first psychic, it started off as just a harmless reading, right? Then from watching your reactions she guessed that you're hung up on a dude and took that as her cue. I'm asking because the exact same thing happened to me.

When I was hung up on a guy I had unrequited feelings for (you can read more here) I was feeling a lot of turmoil and went to a fortune teller for advice. She told me that he was my soulmate but he had a lot of evil around him preventing us from being together. He was dating a controlling, violent woman at the time, and the psychic told me that this woman was actually approaching voodoo practitioners and paying them to keep J bound to her (to be fair, I could believe it, his gf was grade a NUTS)

Anyway, same as you, I got the spiel: You'll never be happy until we do a cleansing ritual on you. There's too much darkness that's followed you both from your past lives that will not go away with out divine intervention.

Let me say as a disclaimer, I was 20 years old in a foreign land and INCREDIBLY naive. I paid for several 'cleansing rituals' (think I shelled out 800 bucks in total, and that was alot in 2003 as it's alot these days too!) and as you can imagine, the 'negativity' between me and J persisted ie he was no more attracted to me than he was the day I confessed my feelings to him, and I was acting like a crazy person because the cleansing rituals weren't working. It was horrible for all concerned.

Is there anything you can do to get this money back, Jen? Can you not report these scam artists to the police or take them to small claims court?

On another note, I agree with other posters - YOU NEED TO GO NO CONTACT FROM THIS GUY. He's no good for you, he doesn't love you or value you and he will never make you happy. Only you can do that.

Don't worry about the money you spent. Money can always be made. Just resolve never to do it again and get on with your life.

I wish you the very best of luck.

December 10, 2013

Hi Jen,

My advice is a lot like the others. You have to go NO CONTACT! I did it over a month ago, went through some serious withdrawal ( like a drug! ) I hurt, became depressed, cried a lot.... I was used for three years as well. Only I found out during all three years he had others on the side the whole time. You will get through this! Keep coming to this sight for great support, it might not be what you want to hear, but these people here have helped me so much!

I have come a long way- so can you! Start by blocking every avenue he has to you-- texts, emails, FB everything! With it being the holidays it has been rough, but each passing day I promise you it gets better! Hugs!!

December 10, 2013

Hi Jen,

I too have been duped by a "psychic" She told me I was cursed and needed to pay a hundred dollars or some BS like that to "lift" the curse. Thank God, she only got twenty bucks out of me before I almost laughed in her face and bolted!

Anyway, that's not the point. The point is you are in total heartbreaking agony and I'm so sorry for that. You really liked (maybe loved) this guy and it sounds like he took full advantage of that. I have been there too. (more times than I would like to admit)

Like Deponie and Meadowgreen (and a few others) have stated, you really need to go NC. It's going to be the hardest thing you have ever done. And yes, it is like a drug. Every cell in your body will be SCREAMING for him. It's awful!!!

We know your pain and come here when you have your withdrawals and we will help you through them.

Again, I'm so sorry for your pain but once you get past the first few weeks (maybe less) you will begin to feel much better. Our situations are somewhat similar and I am just now approaching the anger stage and it feels SO MUCH BETTER.

I know you feel duped but the reality is you really liked this guy and invested your heart and emotions and he broke your heart. Of course you feel sad and heartbroken (who wouldn't) You did NOTHING wrong. You gave your heart to the wrong kind of man, that's all. We have all been there.

Stay Strong!

((hugs!))

December 10, 2013

Thank you! that was the most understanding response I have received. I understand it was stupid of me. I really do. I have changed so much since things ended. However, my issue is that it is hard to hate him. I see all that he has done to me, but after all of this I don't hate the guy. I feel like I can't fully move on until I really hate him. That is my biggest issue.

Jen008

A long time ago, I got hung up on a girl. I was 17 at the time and she was 16. We dated through high school and Then I went in the army.

I came home from my tour in Vietnam and we got engaged. My family wasn't happy about it because they saw something that I didn't. What they saw was a girl who wasn't a what they thought was marriage material and I saw something different. After my leave was up, I went to Germany and a few months later I got a letter from her telling me that she was pregnant and wanted to know if I still wanted her.

I told her that I did, came home at Christmas and married her and ten days later found out that the baby wasn't mine. She used me and married me so she would be married to a serviceman and get the benefits that came with it. In other words, the government paid for it and the real father paid nothing.

I divorced her and the ink wasn't dry on the paper and she married the father and went to court to have me give up my rights as the father. I did since the baby wasn't mine.

I went forty years without speaking to her and a few years ago I did and got a line of BS as to why she did what she did.

Point is I never needed to hate her to get her out of my life. I saw her for excatly what she was and it was enough to avoid her. I even tried to forgive her but she would never accept any blame for what she did.

You don't need to hate someone to rid them out of your life. You just have to love yourself a lot more and want something better. If you wait around to hate him, that will mean that your going to let him use you more and you'll just hate yourself for wasting more time. I never hated my fiance for what she did. I felt sorry for her because she was a loser and as we speak, she's paying for it. She's a little old lady whose divorced from her husband and her kids and family want nothing to do with her. Cant get much harsher than that.

December 13, 2013

Jen008

A long time ago, I got hung up on a girl. I was 17 at the time and she was 16. We dated through high school and Then I went in the army.

I came home from my tour in Vietnam and we got engaged. My family wasn't happy about it because they saw something that I didn't. What they saw was a girl who wasn't a what they thought was marriage material and I saw something different. After my leave was up, I went to Germany and a few months later I got a letter from her telling me that she was pregnant and wanted to know if I still wanted her.

I told her that I did, came home at Christmas and married her and ten days later found out that the baby wasn't mine. She used me and married me so she would be married to a serviceman and get the benefits that came with it. In other words, the government paid for it and the real father paid nothing.

I divorced her and the ink wasn't dry on the paper and she married the father and went to court to have me give up my rights as the father. I did since the baby wasn't mine.

I went forty years without speaking to her and a few years ago I did and got a line of BS as to why she did what she did.

Point is I never needed to hate her to get her out of my life. I saw her for excatly what she was and it was enough to avoid her. I even tried to forgive her but she would never accept any blame for what she did.

You don't need to hate someone to rid them out of your life. You just have to love yourself a lot more and want something better. If you wait around to hate him, that will mean that your going to let him use you more and you'll just hate yourself for wasting more time. I never hated my fiance for what she did. I felt sorry for her because she was a loser and as we speak, she's paying for it. She's a little old lady whose divorced from her husband and her kids and family want nothing to do with her. Cant get much harsher than that.

Wow.

Bubba, without straying too much off topic I just want to tell you what an incredibly decent and wise person you are. I cannot believe that woman used you like that. I guess from a completely amoral standpoint she was thinking about her baby and you would provide stability for both her and the child, but to throw those ugly facts at you and then skip off with the loser biological father? Disgusting.

It shows amazing character on your part that you never hated her for what she did to you. Most people would, and understandably so. Looks like she got her just desserts in the end, but this is what happens when you treat people so coldly without remorse or conscience.

I wish you happiness for the rest of your days, my friend. You deserve it.

December 13, 2013

I feel for you, OP!! Sometimes some of the posters on here can seem harsh, but I think they mean well. And they don't charge you for their honest advice either. ;-)

I have seen many psychics too and wasted probably 1,000 bucks on them. I regret it so much!! I could have spent that money on hair cuts, mani's and pedi's, oh and MASSAGES!!

There is a book out there called: Psychic Junkie. READ IT! haha

Anyways, it's obvious this guy has issues and is unable to commit to you. Drop him and move on. It's not what you want to hear, but I've learned that the hardest things to accept are the things that are most right for us.

You have become addicted to this guy because of psychics feeding you lies. (and because he keeps taking you back) That is awful. This has given you so much false hope. :-(

But I got good news for ya!! You can control this situation, but only under one condition...you have to put your big girl panties on and walk away.

Come back to reality. Start saving your money again. Block this loser. Keep posting here and talking to your therapist. And SMILE! You deserve to!

December 13, 2013

I've learned that the hardest things to accept are the things that are most right for us.

Truth!

Hope you're alright OP! Check in when you can so we know how you're doing.

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