shorty1988m Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 How do you stop thinking of your ex? I'm generally doing ok at the minute and she still pops in my mind regularly but i can distract myself. When i want to fall asleep i usually just think and then fall into a sleep but at the minute shes always there and its prolonging the falling asleep and exhausting me
im_thedude Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I "switch channels" the best I can. I focus on trying to picture the perfect, ideal girl in my head. And how we meet in some ridiculous romantic way. It's sappy, but gets the job done. 3
OptimistPrime Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Yeah I know the feeling. Went through that a couple of years ago. Couldn't fall asleep without my thoughts straying to the wonderful times together then the sadness of it ending. The way I handled it was to grab a book and read until I fell asleep. Been doing that pretty much the past three years and can't say I think about the ex much when I'm concentrating on what I've read. Got through about a dozen books that way. 1
AnyaNova Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 How do you stop thinking of your ex? I'm generally doing ok at the minute and she still pops in my mind regularly but i can distract myself. When i want to fall asleep i usually just think and then fall into a sleep but at the minute shes always there and its prolonging the falling asleep and exhausting me Exes seem to have a particular talent for doing this! Thankfully it has been quite awhile since I've been there. There are a couple strategies you can take. If you are to a certain point in your healing, you can "choose" to develop a very mild and helpful crush (be very strategic about who, somebody who is not accessible, and who is not so overwhelmingly attractive that you can't keep it light and mild), and then practice thinking about them as you go to sleep. At first the ex will intrude as you get closer to sleep, but as your brain gets used to thinking of the crush, the ex will continue to recede. You could also try, if the ex "appears" mentally aging her to an old hag, picturing her in whatever silly way/imagery will cause the emotional power to be reduced. Sorry, I wish I could think of more right now, but I'm really tired, stressed, and out of it right now! Will come back if I think of more.
Qactus Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 i am facing those moment from last 2 months and i can totally understand how does it feel. I get horrific dream and her memories haunt me all night. I cant sleep properly just because of the fact she is no more with me. The time spent with her has such a deep impression on my personality. I'm emotionally unavailable and cant find anything else just to think about her all day. I just hope this time will pass and i could move on someday with my own life.
Mario79 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Try guided meditation before going to sleep. The only problem with this preparation you have to take and just breathe, but if you get used to it you could achieve a good relaxation and then sleep. It doesnt stop you thinking from your ex though, the thoughts will flow in an out. Although sometimes the harder we try not to think, the harder it is.
strive Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 My solution was fairly simple: a teddy bear. A huge fluffy teddy bear that's about half my size. Helped tremendously. But that's just me.
Author shorty1988m Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 Last night after i wrote the post i just tried to sleep and yep she was there. Eventually my mind had wandered elsewhere and all of a sudden i was like 'yeh i'm thinking of something different' and then boom she was back. So she's not there 24/7 anymore but still bubbling under the surface.
2fargone Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I drink. Period. Not a bottle a day or something, but it gets me to sleep, or rather to sleep more than 2-4 hours. Although I must also say that I need less sleep in general without the ex.
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