Confussed messed up ex boyfriend who in love with someone in 2 weeks after dumping me

[chau_nnguyen]

I was in a relationship with my ex and we lived together for almost 4 years, we broke up bc of my insecurities and when I was on a holiday, after the first time I broke up with him, we got back and then he dumped me and got back with me 3 times. When I got home from my holiday, we met and he wanted to work things out with me, then an hour later he confessed me that after the first time we broke up, he dated a girl thats friend with his brothers girlfriend and were still seeing her during the times we got back. Then he asked me if he could stay at his brothes house to figure out what he wanted for us and I accepted. Then a day later he broke it off with me again. 5 times in 1 month! I was so upset and crying all day. In 3 weeks after the last time breaking up, he still came over to see me like everyday to check on me and to get his stuff. We talked bout our relationship and things between us and between him and her, he hugged me really tight and tried to touch me, he even got naked in front of me when I dared him, reason he came over to see me is bc he missed me, that he thought of me when hung out with her. During the times he came over and on facebook, I confronted him bout things I heard from his friends and his brothers told me that shes there with him everyday and they sleep together, he picks up and drops her off at school, go strawberry picking, hanging out a lots, he makes new license to get into the clubs with her that he told me he hated, when I call or talk to him on the phone he doesnt answer straight after bc shes there, he deleted our conversation on facebook incase she might sees it bc he let her uses his phone to take photos of her and them, he named her number as sweetie on his phone and xoxo her in texts (thats what I saw by my own eyes). He denied all of that, he said he only saw her as friend and enjoy her company and shes a fun girl to hang out with. He even changed her name number from Sweetie to Friend in front of me just to prove that they are nothing. He also said if one day he find the love he once had for me he will let me, then he said if he dates her again i will be the first person know that, but it would be just for fun, then he went it wouldnt be serious unless we get back, then dont worry hes not gonna date her. Confused! But I see things like this, we dated when I was 18, shes 18 now, she gives him the fun, happiness and joys of honeymon stage that he was craving to have that, besides its connivence bc shes friend with his brothers girlfriend and I didnt get along well with them so its better to hangout with her bc its no drama. I told him and of course he denied it, theres no honeymon stage bc they are just friend! He also said i was the last asian girl he ever dated and yes shes asian, we are both vietnamese!

So last Sunday I heard him and his friends planned to go fishing but he said she wouldnt come bc there was no seat in the car but his brother said she was going to come. I trusted him. Then I decided to send his best friend a text saying if he can get a time alone with my ex, please help me to find out if what I heard from people and what I saw on his phone were truth and if he likes her I will back off and give up on our love. I regretted doing that bc his friend told him on that day (they didnt go fishing), and he confronted me and asked me why I did it, i gave him reasons but he seemed he didnt care much about it. Then yesterday he was with his brother (who hates me to gut and mean to me all the time), he asked me why I sent the text again, and he said "But do u know what u said to him really hurt me why did u have to lie an make me look bad because it was not true why did u have to make me sound so stupid". I said sorry to him and explain i didnt think it through and i though his friend would help us get back. Then 20 mins later he text me said "Can u please stop talking and asking bout me and her, I love her and thats all I want u to know, Im serious telling u this, please stop". Then he called me and said he felt in love with her 2 weeks ago she knows that and she loves him too, they sleep together and have sex, and if I want he can let me meet her to have a final talk. I know it was his brother who hates me and told him to say that to make me shut up bc why he said I hurt him by sending the text and what I said aint truth. If he said he liked her I could believe it but not IN LOVE we broke up 2 weeks after he knew he loved her and the way he denied things made me believe he just said it to piss me off, of course he has feeling for her based on what I heard and saw but not love, its so fast. I dont know if shes a rebound or he actually loves her. You guys got to read through this slowly to understand how messed up he is and the way he denied and stringed me along in 1 month since I got home! I cant do NC right now bc I still need to talk to help bout putting the house we rent in my name and his furnitures are still here. I went NC in 2 days last week and he called me like 6 times in total and he got a bit jealous when he knew I was on a date. Last friday he asked if I want him to come over I said no, then he called again said he was at supermarket near my place and wondered if I needed anything I said no again. After that we talked a bit then this **** happened just yesterday! His brother told his friend that my ex new girlfriend has left him bc of this **** before my ex told me if I want can meet her. I asked him latter that night if I can meet her and he said maybe. I dont know what to do, I love him so much but why he had to lie bout his feeling for her and denied everything I knew bout them and kept stringing me along! There are so many confusions of him bc of his reactions towards me when he saw me and things he said to lead me on and if he dates her he will let me know like million times, denied everything then bum he loves her after he said things i knew aint true and it hurt him. Please help Im stuck

[Omei]

After all that why do you want him?

He doesn't sound like true love he sounds like a wishy washy boy who doesn't know what he's doing at all.

 

Just go NC forget about him, his friends, the girl get out live your life and let someone new come along.

 

And he wants you to meet her? Lol boy does he love drama, and to hurt you and watch it he's "ew"

[chau_nnguyen]

After all that why do you want him?

He doesn't sound like true love he sounds like a wishy washy boy who doesn't know what he's doing at all.

 

Just go NC forget about him, his friends, the girl get out live your life and let someone new come along.

 

And he wants you to meet her? Lol boy does he love drama, and to hurt you and watch it he's "ew"

 

Yea didnt he think that I will tell her everything he been telling me bout her lol or he just though if i meet her and she confirm that they are in love i will back off. Hes so dumb. Good try but didnt work!

Thank for your advice, i feel so much better today, karma will come to him and he will go to hell and get his tongue cut off bc of his lying behaviour!!

[chau_nnguyen]

Has anyone have any advice for my situation? I was better but now Im feeling worst again!

[Haydn]

Forget this guy! Now, today, tomorrow.

 

 

Has anyone have any advice for my situation? I was better but now Im feeling worst again!