mirage12 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I re-watched the movie 500 Days of Summer last night. The only other time I've seen it was following a breakup I had before my recent one. The movie is supposedly a romantic comedy but I think it's a very accurate and realistic portrayal of all of the angst/emotion that follows a relationship from start to end. For those of you who have seen it, the scene on the park bench towards the end of the movie was profound for me. Although the relationship situation in the movie may not apply to anyone here, it sort of did to me and I'm sure it will to many of you. The main character goes through many of the stages we all have - the initial romance, the honeymoon period, the slow falling out, the split, the denial/lingering hope of reconciliation and finally the acceptance. Sure, it's Hollywood...but the emotions and thoughts that the dumpee goes through are so so real. Watching a movie won't make things hurt less - I'm still very much somewhere in the grieving/denial stage one month post BU. But the part of the movie that covers what happens after a breakup is so true. At the beginning of the story, the narrator says that here is the story of A and B...but this isn't a love story. For those of us suffering from a horrible split, maybe there's some takeaway from that. Our time spent with our Ex's was part of our story...but didn't end as a fairy tale love story. There's a line in the movie, where the main character looks at his ex and tells her how deluded he was into thinking there was such a thing as everlasting love, fate, etc. Her response? That no...he was right about all of that. The only thing he was wrong about was in trying to find it with her. Give it a watch. It helped me, and I hope it helps you too. 2
maiden555 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I love that movie. I tend to crave it during a breakup too, like Eternal Sunshine but it messes with my head less. My favorite part about 500 Days of Summer is watching the relationship deteriorate before your eyes. The Ikea scenes illustrate that nicely. 2
Braveheart01 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I second this. The movie really help me seeking for answers. Although not entirely specific, it gives me some peace of mind that this things really happened. Especially when Summer already found new love after the break up, and the explanation that she has found the "thing" that she isn't sure of with Tom. Do you have any other movies like this? I watched Jim Carey's Eternal Sunshine, and the story isn't well fitting for my experience. 2
Sugarkane Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I've seen that movie a few times. I envy that Tom gets post breakup closure. Never had that in real life even after being dumped out of the blue. Makes me cynical. Summer annoys me though, she willingly strings him along the whole time.
Kizmet Fisher Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I've seen that movie a few times. I envy that Tom gets post breakup closure. Never had that in real life even after being dumped out of the blue. Makes me cynical. Summer annoys me though, she willingly strings him along the whole time. Actually, that person who wrote the film had intended it to be interpreted that the scene in the park where he gets closure was all in his head. 1
Mariposa10 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Staying away from that movie. I have always loved this movie! Ever since I saw the trailer, I knew I'd love it! However, every since my breakup, I haven't watched it... I can't right now. I know I will be able to watch it again soon.
forgetmenot75 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Staying away from that movie. you should watch it
Haydn Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Watch a small British movie called `One day` Not hollywood for sure.
strive Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I love this movie, and I'm sad when I see people bash Summer for dumping Tom (a lot of my friends did) because they didn't understand the lesson. It essentially shows everything that's wrong about codependency and what becomes of someone who is codependent (Tom). I think a lot of people didn't get that the only way to find true love/happiness is to learn to love yourself and take care of yourself, which is what Tom did at the end. He eventually cleaned up after the breakup, pursued his dream in architecture, and in the end the movie hinted at a new love interest. It's what we all preach here in LS. Love yourself and be a better version of yourself, and all will fall into place. Happy people attract positive things in their life, and will perhaps eventually even find their own 'Autumn.' 4
mysteriouschic Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I would watch this movie but only I remember me and him were together at the time and I was deciding what movie to watch and it was out of 500 Days of Summer and another movie , he said to watch 500 Days of Summer . So I'm not sure if I'll watch it in case it brings back memories or something. It might be fine .
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