SameOldFear Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I was at work and he knew I was going to be there. He works there too and I got him the job. (it's fast food place) I avoided them both, but I know they saw me and knew I saw them. I'm on day 9 of NC. This is so hurtful.
Mariposa10 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Oh my god, I'm so sorry But at least that horrible moment is gone, now it's about you! Just keep taking care of yourself, you'll heal soon. Be selfish and stay NC.
GeneralJennyJenn Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 so sorry your ex works at the same place you do, he's a jerk for bringing his new gf there. I can't imagine how I would handle that kind of scenario where one has to deal with an ex due to a job, kids or a house. A clean break is the best! You are super strong for not letting them rattle you, way to go! 2
Author SameOldFear Posted December 19, 2013 Author Posted December 19, 2013 Thanks for the replies. It happened again today. I avoided them again. I just wish he would have more respect than to do that. I got him that job and we used to eat there together all the time. He knows my schedule. I don't know if he doesn't think about it or thinks it probably doesn't bother me, but either way it's very mean.
Mariposa10 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Thanks for the replies. It happened again today. I avoided them again. I just wish he would have more respect than to do that. I got him that job and we used to eat there together all the time. He knows my schedule. I don't know if he doesn't think about it or thinks it probably doesn't bother me, but either way it's very mean. Karma's a bitch!! You dodged the bullet!
falxmanolo Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I was at work and he knew I was going to be there. He works there too and I got him the job. (it's fast food place) I avoided them both, but I know they saw me and knew I saw them. I'm on day 9 of NC. This is so hurtful. I am so sorry! My mum always says God tries good people but always protects them in the end, sorry you maybe an atheist but it's just the thought that this is going to make you stronger. And at least you're not as horrible a person to bring your newfound lover and rub it in his face- unlike him you've got class and standards screw him. You are a strong woman of substance and you may not let losers get to you! big hug!
strive Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 That's a ****ty thing he did, I'm so sorry. But obviously he wasn't thinking about what you might feel or that he just doesn't care. Which tells me that you're better off without people like that in your life!
Author SameOldFear Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 Hi, guys. Sort for pulling this thread up again, but I need some advice. Today, they not only came in together but she applied for a job. My friend and I talked to our manager afterwards and apparently she was very unimpressed with how rude his new gf came across. But it doesn't mean she won't be hired. How dare he bring her here when I got him his job. I regret it so much now. It hurts so bad to know I did that for him and now he's doing that for her. I'm still going strong with NC, I'm at 48 days now. But I'm dying to text him and tell him how inconsiderate they both are.
Mariposa10 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Oh my god!! This sounds like too much!! Too much drama. If she were to get hired, would she get a different shift than yours? Hi, guys. Sort for pulling this thread up again, but I need some advice. Today, they not only came in together but she applied for a job. My friend and I talked to our manager afterwards and apparently she was very unimpressed with how rude his new gf came across. But it doesn't mean she won't be hired. How dare he bring her here when I got him his job. I regret it so much now. It hurts so bad to know I did that for him and now he's doing that for her. I'm still going strong with NC, I'm at 48 days now. But I'm dying to text him and tell him how inconsiderate they both are.
Author SameOldFear Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 There's a different schedule every week, but most likely we'd probably be working a couple of nights a week together. it is a lot. I just don't know how I trusted him with so much ad now this is who he is.
Omei Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Its a fast food joint, apply to others in the area, quit the job it sounds like you need too. If you worked elsewhere you would be happier. 1
strive Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Its a fast food joint, apply to others in the area, quit the job it sounds like you need too. If you worked elsewhere you would be happier. I agree with this. You're still in pain because you haven't been able to do proper NC. Try to get a job somewhere else. It'll give you the peace of mind you need and deserve.
firefly2613 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 He's trying so hard to get a reaction out of you. Keep up NC. 2
Mondmellonw Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 To read your thread makes me feel stronger, but at the same time, it makes me feel nervous. My ex and his another ex got graduated from the school am in now. Only a week left. I'll be back at classes. They still have business to do in there, chances are I'll see them (together or not, but I am going to see them). The back story is a little long, but.... Ugh, I'll try my best (like you) to just ignore them). To me it seems like your ex is trying to annoy you. Don't pay attention to him or this girl. I don't know if you should stay working in there if she enters.... But probably I would try to find another job, who cares what they think, anyways.
M30USA Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I am so sorry! My mum always says God tries good people but always protects them in the end, sorry you maybe an atheist but it's just the thought that this is going to make you stronger. And at least you're not as horrible a person to bring your newfound lover and rub it in his face- unlike him you've got class and standards screw him. You are a strong woman of substance and you may not let losers get to you! big hug! Actually, obedient followers of God usually get tested even more than non-believers. From an outside perspective, it APPEARS as if God has punished them--while the wicked prosper. But the truth is God has taken his corrective and purifying hand off the wicked, so they receive no discipline at all. He has let them go. Yet the world calls them succesful and even blessed for this reason!
Mariposa10 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I agree. Have you thought this idea? Its a fast food joint, apply to others in the area, quit the job it sounds like you need too. If you worked elsewhere you would be happier.
bubbaganoosh Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 You know, someday you knew that you would see him with his new girlfriend. I'm sorry that it was so soon and you haven't had the chance to heal but do one thing for yourself. Don't give them the chance to take your dignity away. Keep your head held high and just concentrate on your work. The last thing you want to do is show either of them your hurt. There isn't much you can do about their ignorance because it sounds to me like flaunting. Your going to have to be the bigger person. Best of luck to you. You have friends here.
JDPT Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 It's in your best interest, and as stated previously that you find a new position elsewhere. He clearly has no regards and not that you would expect him to abou your emotional being. Take this as a wake up call and focus on getting yourself out of that uncomfortable position. In the meantime focus in you and ignore the immature antics.
Author SameOldFear Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 Thank you guys. I'm hesitant to find a new position elsewhere as I've made so many good friends here and am a crew trainer and make $2/hr more than starting positions anywhere else. I do love my job when he's not there. I'm considering it, but I still don't want to have a to give up a great thing I have going for me because of him or her. They both have already caused me enough trouble in my life. I'm hitting myself still for getting him his job. People warned me but I didn't listen.
Mariposa10 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 What's done is done, no need to keep torturing yourself about it. What you need to do is to think of a solution. When will you know if she gets hired? Thank you guys. I'm hesitant to find a new position elsewhere as I've made so many good friends here and am a crew trainer and make $2/hr more than starting positions anywhere else. I do love my job when he's not there. I'm considering it, but I still don't want to have a to give up a great thing I have going for me because of him or her. They both have already caused me enough trouble in my life. I'm hitting myself still for getting him his job. People warned me but I didn't listen.
Author SameOldFear Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 What's done is done, no need to keep torturing yourself about it. What you need to do is to think of a solution. When will you know if she gets hired? Sometime in the next couple of weeks.
Raena Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 It may seem difficult for you to find a different job, but you never know...it might be the best thing for you. If she gets hired, start looking. In the meantime, just keep your head up! You can do this! 1
Omei Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) Crew trainer is only the first step on the totem pole, and im sure you can apply as a crew trainer for the same fast food place or at least you would have a good recommendation, since you're obviously not a quitter. The friends you have made will still be around if they are truly your friends and not just work buddies. Think of it as a new adventure....what other hot boys in their sexy mc d's or burger king outfits are out there in new locations? Will you put your sausage in my egg mc muffin? You'll say! Or this might not sound professional but maybe you should tell your adviser how hard it is already for you, and that her being hired would make you miserable if they are smart they will realize having to lose a crew trainer over an untrained member of the team isn't very logical and you have a right to be happy in the workplace also have the right to feel comfortable there, as I am sure they do not want drama. Edited January 18, 2014 by Omei 1
TaraMaiden Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Thank you guys. I'm hesitant to find a new position elsewhere as I've made so many good friends here and am a crew trainer and make $2/hr more than starting positions anywhere else. I do love my job when he's not there. I'm considering it, but I still don't want to have a to give up a great thing I have going for me because of him or her. They both have already caused me enough trouble in my life. I'm hitting myself still for getting him his job. People warned me but I didn't listen. Is it worth having a discreet and confidential word with your boss and explaining how awkward this would really be? If you like your job, and this is unfair, just put forward the practical issue. Explain that it would make the working environment strained, and you would find it difficult to maintain the level of professionalism your boss would require. You apologise for making it personal, but you feel being honest about matters is better than saying nothing. You can't obviously expect him to not hire her based solely on your input, but if he already says she's impolite, and there's YOUR situation.... maybe he would see that inviting drama wouldn't be practical or appropriate.... 1
Sugarkane Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 My high school boyfriend and his gf did the same to me. I didn't have a choice because I had classes together with my ex bf. I avoided him at all costs. But him and his gf would stalk me everywhere and fully make out. I don't know what sort of person would be stupid enough to act like this to their boyfriends ex. I knew what he was trying to do. I went with the "fake it, until you make it approach" and acted indifferent. I really thought my ex was unattractive after that.
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