How have physical insecurities hurt your relationship?

[Elliotte]

I feel like the odd one in that I feel like I am comfortable enough with my body that I do not really feel envious of other dudes. I know I am far from Brad Pitt, but I am decently above average height, maintain decent weight, above average endowment, etc. I have had a bit of chub around my waistline, but I am not someone who pines after having that perfectly defined six pack, nor am I fearful that my wife finds me too fat.

 

On the other hand my amazing wife has been self conscious about her bust size. I have always been more of an "ass-man" myself, but not only does she have a nice tight butt, her breasts are nice and perky b-cups and I've loved the site of them since the first time I saw them. And believe me, I compliment them A LOT. But she has admitted to me when we first started dating, she thought I would not be into her because she didn't "have enough". I am an artist who does figure drawings to study sometimes and if she sees that I am drawing a woman with bigger breasts than her, she gets self conscious and feels inadequate, she's admitted she thinks sometimes I am into bigger boobs based on that. If we watch porn together and the woman has bigger breasts, she has a similar reaction and feels unsexy. Yet at the same time she likes flashing me or letting me motorboat them! It seems impossible to convince her that I find her chest flawless!

 

If you have any advice or personal stories of physical insecurities causing some pain in your relationship (past or current), I'd love to hear it!

[gabgab]

No because I do not voice them too much. Even if I do I dont make it super obvious it bugs me.

 

There is no woman on this planet who is completely confident in herself. Maybe when men stop valuing women primarily for how hot they are, women will stop focusing on their looks and physical flaws so much. Only a woman who has experienced a lobotomy would not pick up on the fact that once your looks fade, your value fades. We also know subconsciously how obsessed men are with female beauty.