beckijones Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Okay so I just got into this relationship with a boy in my college. He asked me out just over a day ago and at first I thought it was a good idea. I'm quiet a socially awkward girl and this guy was just so sweet and lovely. However, after the first 5 hours he told me he loved me? Through out the day it has become very clear to me that we aren't looking for the same thing in a relationship and I'm finding him too clingy and full on. It's only been a day,am I giving up too soon because I'm feeling slightly suffocated? I wanna dump him but I don't want to yourself him, how do I do it with out being horrible? Please help
pteromom Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I'd talk to him. Tell him that he is making you uncomfortable, and if you are going to continue seeing him, he needs to relax and move much more slowly. That it is way too early to be talking about love. Then go from there. If he doesn't get it or continues being clingy, break it off. 2
Author beckijones Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 A bit of both. I like him, but it's no clear we want different things from a relationship. I'm of course, a little scared of being in a relationship, but I just feel pressured and then I feel guilty for not feeling the same as what he's saying to me if that makes any sense.
Balzac Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Have you just begun dating while at college? Did you date in high school?
d0nnivain Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 If you feel pressured, you need to tell him that. Ask him to back off. See how he responds. If he doesn't stop smothering you, walk away.
burnedcaine Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I'm surprised you're not more freaked out by him saying he loves you. Call him a romantic or whatever but a sensible guy wouldn't say that to a girl he just met. Definitely tell him he needs to back off.
amaysngrace Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 IMO guys who come on to you hard are bad control freaks. Developing strong feelings almost immediately just shows how shallow and superficial they are. I wouldn't worry about hurting his fake feelings. You'd be surprised how quickly he'll be over you and on to the next. Also, you shouldn't let anybody make you afraid of staying true to yourself and expressing your feelings. Being like that is probably what drew this loser to you in the first place.
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