mtnbiker3000 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 I was looking for another piece by John Gray to present to you, and came across this. Not sure if you can relate, but I sure could A sure-fire way to kill the love in a relationship is to sacrifice your wants and needs in order to be loved by someone else. When you stop caring about yourself and your needs, there are no longer two people in the relationship. It's hard to be interested in nobody and this To love another doesn't mean you make them more important than yourself. There's nothing more boring than being in a relationship with someone who feels they have no self-worth. You are mistaken if you think that you will impress your partner by treating him as if he is better than you.If you care more about your partner than yourself, one day you will find that your partner starts caring only about himself too. Still looking for the original quote which I think may be of interest to you... 1
Author polynomial Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 I was looking for another piece by John Gray to present to you, and came across this. Not sure if you can relate, but I sure could A sure-fire way to kill the love in a relationship is to sacrifice your wants and needs in order to be loved by someone else. When you stop caring about yourself and your needs, there are no longer two people in the relationship. It's hard to be interested in nobody and this To love another doesn't mean you make them more important than yourself. There's nothing more boring than being in a relationship with someone who feels they have no self-worth. You are mistaken if you think that you will impress your partner by treating him as if he is better than you.If you care more about your partner than yourself, one day you will find that your partner starts caring only about himself too. Still looking for the original quote which I think may be of interest to you... I really like them and they apply well to my situation as well in many aspects, thank you!
forgetmenot75 Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Just.. someone tell me not to and that it will get better.. I don't know.. I really miss him and just want to talk.. But I realise I can't heal if I break NC. Someone please convince me not to break it please You are addicted. the only way to heal is cold turkey. IF you want to heal and move on, do not contact him. NEVER AGAIN. IF you want to continue with this sick circle, contact him again and feel miserable afterwards. Your choice.
vassilbg Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Its funny because she dumped me, and I don't want to get back with her because it would have never worked out... I wanted to break up with her on numerous occasions but didn't until she did the deed... I want to break NC out of habit to share certain things that are going on, but the only thing keeping from doing it is I don't want to give her the impression that I'm hung up on her, because I'm not. Do I respond when she texts me? Yes, but I keep it short and sweet. Do yourself a favor and don't break NC. When I have dumped girls in the past and they text me, its annoying and I feel bad for them... chin up, keep your dignity. If you've already broken up 5 times, move on... its not gonna work out.
Author polynomial Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Its funny because she dumped me, and I don't want to get back with her because it would have never worked out... I wanted to break up with her on numerous occasions but didn't until she did the deed... I want to break NC out of habit to share certain things that are going on, but the only thing keeping from doing it is I don't want to give her the impression that I'm hung up on her, because I'm not. Do I respond when she texts me? Yes, but I keep it short and sweet. Do yourself a favor and don't break NC. When I have dumped girls in the past and they text me, its annoying and I feel bad for them... chin up, keep your dignity. If you've already broken up 5 times, move on... its not gonna work out. Thanks! Things is, I *know* all of this. But it's good to hear/read it from somebody else, you know?
Author polynomial Posted December 12, 2013 Author Posted December 12, 2013 Last night I think I had some kind of a closure regarding whether or not I should break NC. I realised that all of the times that he has dumped me (5 times but who's counting?), it has always been me who has crawled back and it has never worked out, no matter how hard I've tried (and I'm sure he tried too somehow). He himself has begged me back once. That was October-November last year. I was hesistant at first, because at that point he had already dumped me once but he kept begging day and night for weeks, saying he will never ever leave me again until I decided I should give him another chance. If only I had known what a year was ahead of me, full of him dumping 4 times!! Anyway, my point is, I will not contact him again, because I have tried that several times before and it's been all for naught. IF he feels he has something to say to me, he will contact me, and if he never will, that's all for the better, because honestly I feel like I've given this relationship so much chances and I really did try to imrpove myself with every new chance and that was still not good enough, so this is my chance now to say that *I've* had enough. So there's that. 1
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