emva07 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 The other day I was out with a couple of friends....one friend hit it off with a guy and they danced/talked the whole night...in the process, the two of us got lucky because he bought us drinks too.... I told my friend he must really like her to be not buying only her drinks, but her friends too. She blushed. Thoughts? Would any of you other guys do this as well? I know most of you will think it's stupid, but I thought it was gentlemanly of him.
d0nnivain Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I am more surprised by guys who don't do this. It is the gentlemanly thing to do but it can get expensive fast. When I'm the girl the guy isn't interested in, I always try to buy the guy a drink back just to say thanks (unless he's someone I need to get my friend away from in which case I suggest we all polite decline the initial offer. )
MissBee Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 The other day I was out with a couple of friends....one friend hit it off with a guy and they danced/talked the whole night...in the process, the two of us got lucky because he bought us drinks too.... I told my friend he must really like her to be not buying only her drinks, but her friends too. She blushed. Thoughts? Would any of you other guys do this as well? I know most of you will think it's stupid, but I thought it was gentlemanly of him. It always wins points for me when a man does this. A smart man knows in general that getting good with a lady's friends will help you out immensely, as if her girlfriends dislike you, your life will be a lot harder.
Author emva07 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Like the Spice Girl song says...."if you wannabe my lover, you gotta get with my friends" :lmao: But here is the tricky part, he was here visiting until Wednesday....thing is, he didn't try to take her home. So what's the point of spending all that money? I mean it was just a total of 4 drinks (like $40)...but still...
d0nnivain Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 He simply may have been a generous mannerly guy. 3
Elliotte Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Some people just like to buy everyone drinks, I've been out with people who do that. If it's a one time thing it's a nice gesture, or sometimes if you're feeling like getting a buzz going you want others on your level so you get a round of shots.
MissBee Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Like the Spice Girl song says...."if you wannabe my lover, you gotta get with my friends" :lmao: But here is the tricky part, he was here visiting until Wednesday....thing is, he didn't try to take her home. So what's the point of spending all that money? I mean it was just a total of 4 drinks (like $40)...but still... Huh? Was he supposed to take her home in exchange for $40 worth of drinks? I HATE when a man has the attitude that because he bought me a drink I am indebted to him. I appreciate men who buy drinks as nice gestures and who know how to be gracious about it without now thinking you owe them immediate sex.I would suggest a man not buy a woman and her friends drinks with the expectation that it will be redeemed for sex that night.
Shepp Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Do guys not? Go up to a girl and buy just her a drink....sounds a bit tight! I guess I wAs just brought up in a family that fought over who got the honour of picking up the tab. Wouldn't suprise me if my first words were "I'll get the first round" because they come out of my mouth before I know I've said them!!
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 It's just politeness amongst my friends. We don't really keep tabs on who has spent what, but if there is a group of us out, we all drink at different rates, whoever decides to go and grab a drink will offer everybody else at the table one, even a friend of a friend who you don't really know... it just seems rude to offer a few people in a group a drink and purposefully exclude somebody else sat there who has just finished theirs! It doesn't exactly work out that expensive either given that at any one time only a proportion of the group will be near the end of their drink. It's just about taking care of your friends. But I definitely wouldn't think any less of a guy if I met him out, he bought me a drink but didn't offer one to my friends, unless it was just me and one other girl... then I'd think he was a bit tight but it wouldn't put me off him because ya know, why should he spend his cash on drinks for two girls who might not even be interested in him anyway (I would never accept a drink from a man I wasn't interested in but many girls would)?
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