MzAttitude Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 okay well my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 9 1/2 years now and it will be soon be 10 years in may 2014(if we make it) I have left him twice over the coarse of the relationship but came back because he begged me to and told me we were going to get married and things were gonna be different. Well i came back thinking things would change but NO CHANGE. For starters, I have met basically all of his family and he has only met my dad(once) and my two brothers(once) and he has talked to my mom over the phone(once). We have been in the same spot in the relationship since it started and im just fed up. I really think he is afraid of marriage or something different. He don't want to move out of state or anything and I do. I guess i have stayed this long because i don't want to hurt him but I have to think about myself and my 3 children. oh we have 7 children in all...i have 3 and he has 5 but we have 1 daughter together out of those 7. what should i do. I am at the point i am ending it by the end of the school year before june 2014 that way i can move once the children are out of school. Please help me.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Sounds like you've already made up your mind, none of us here can change the dynamics of your relationship. Why doesn't he meet your family? Have you talked about how you truly feel with him? Why are you moving? If he hasn't married you after nine years maybe he doesn't feel the need to marry, have you asked him?
Never Again Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Sounds like you've already made up your mind, none of us here can change the dynamics of your relationship. Why doesn't he meet your family? Have you talked about how you truly feel with him? Why are you moving? If he hasn't married you after nine years maybe he doesn't feel the need to marry, have you asked him? Biggest part is bolded. Have you spoken with him, in very clear terms, that you feel like you're in a rut? Or are you hoping he'll just do what you want because he should "just want to"? I imagine you MUST have spoken to him about some of these things at this point. It's possible that he either has no idea how much they're hurting you...or he simply doesn't care. Either talk to him or end it now. Don't wait for some arbitrary deadline to make it easier. Try now or end it now.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Yep agreed, talk now, end now, do what you have to 1000% no excuses. You've already come here to post that means you're serious. If he is apathetic end it. If he is understanding, and you love him, don't throw it away.
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