JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Hey everyone.. I'm just wondering how many people here does it? I feel bad cause I broke it 3 times for the past 2 months.. 2 times I replied to her.. 1 time I message her.. Feel sucks because keep telling myself that I am strong and will never have the urge to reply or even message her.. I feel worst when I message her.. Why love makes you stupid? obviously I know to myself that contacting her doesn't make any difference but still I did it.. What do you do when you have weak moments guys? Or maybe I'm just being hard on myself too much but still I think I mess up everything doing this things without thinking it through.
Saurren Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Well who broke up with who? If you were the dumper it would look weak and if you were the dumpee it would look weaker. Just think about all the times she/he belittled you our insulted and cursed at you and you will never reply again. Or you could always turn off your phone to stop the tmeptations
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 She did broke up with me
shorty1988m Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I have no idea why i became so needy after the break up. But what i did realise was each time i contacted her was at a small weak moment when i was generally feeling good and it would plunge me back to the dark days straight after the BU. Staying in contact, at least for now, is just not a good thing but sometimes the emotions overrule the head
Hotsauce3mk Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I was having a rough day yesterday and had these painful urges to contact my ex girlfriend. I stood my ground tho after realizing how much worse I would feel after, whether she replied or not. What helped me was to text or call a couple close friends and say "hey I'm having this urge to contact her so I'm contacting you instead to talk me out of it." I was snowed in yesterday and couldn't do much so that's when all thoughts of her came rushing in. But talking to other people and doing a ton of push-ups and sit-ups when I couldn't go to the gym helped me stay focused and stay NC. Stay strong.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Ive just broken NC after 6 weeks! the ex got a parking fine which was issued in my dads name as he owned the car before him which despite my dad messaging him about he has ignored. I cant bear to see my dad getting more and more stressed about it so I have text him and asked him to acknoweldge my dads messages, it is just 30 seconds out his day to save my dad a lot of stress. I still feel like Ive undone all my hard work even if it was a message that didnt require a response and was just about a practical matter :-( :-( x
Saurren Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Ive just broken NC after 6 weeks! the ex got a parking fine which was issued in my dads name as he owned the car before him which despite my dad messaging him about he has ignored. I cant bear to see my dad getting more and more stressed about it so I have text him and asked him to acknoweldge my dads messages, it is just 30 seconds out his day to save my dad a lot of stress. I still feel like Ive undone all my hard work even if it was a message that didnt require a response and was just about a practical matter :-( :-( x Easy solution "report car as stolen" lol 1
LostConfused123 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Easy solution "report car as stolen" lol That literally made me laugh out loud! OP, not to make light of your situation (it's a serious matter) but I really hope that made you laugh getting a visual. When it comes to my dad, I will do just about anything as well. You were just protecting him. I probably would have done the same. Idk, hard to say how we will react until it happens. Best of luck and don't beat yourself up. ((hugs!))
organizedchaos Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Ive just broken NC after 6 weeks! the ex got a parking fine which was issued in my dads name as he owned the car before him which despite my dad messaging him about he has ignored. I cant bear to see my dad getting more and more stressed about it so I have text him and asked him to acknoweldge my dads messages, it is just 30 seconds out his day to save my dad a lot of stress. I still feel like Ive undone all my hard work even if it was a message that didnt require a response and was just about a practical matter :-( :-( x No, you're doing fine. Ok to contact about unfinished business matters. Just keep communication strictly to the business at hand.
ponchsox Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 When I have a weak moment, I just think about how poorly she treated me throughout the relationship and it kills any thoughts I have about contacting her. 3
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