Old flame contacted me

[mendsley]

So I've been doing really good lately. I'm no longer in a pethetic state of meaningless depression and the pain of the ex has subsided. I still think about her everyday and, at times, something reminds me of her and I get sad. I realize one of the things that bothered me about this whole ordeal was I never thought she was strong enough to leave me. I took that for granted and I believe that had some impact on the relationship. I do miss her very much, she is a great person (or was a great peraon). One of her good friends is no longer talking to her because she has become so self obsorbed no one wants to deal with her. It's like no one else exists besides her. She is loving all the attention she's getting from guys checking her out it's causing her to lose touch of what's important...the person and not the game (if that makes sense).

 

I have no desire to ever get back with her. I'm attached to the idea of having someone in my life to experience memories with, but the person she has become is quite sad. Oh well, no longer my problem.

 

No that is out of my system here's my current situation. I am talking to an old flame I used to date before my last ex. I was madly in love with this woman, she makes me laugh, I feel important when im around her, we are very sexually compatable and a long list of other things I like. Another thing she did was help me get over my ex wife. She does hold a special place in my heart. I do not want to get into a relationship right now. I'm just not ready for that. But, if I start hanging around her as friends we will sleep together and I will fall for her again. She is one that will never be tied down. She loves the clubs and attention from other men. If she is still who she used to be, a relationship would never happen.

 

When I talk to her I do not think about my ex...matter in fact I could care less about my ex. I like that feeling! I know we could have mind shattering sex with no relationship, but I fear sex will lead me into wanting more from her.

 

Should I not think so much about all this and just have a fun sexual based relationship which I know will help me heal faster? Or should I keep my distance and play it safe?