lillypolo Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 at uni, I met an incredible guy recently and hit it off right away. He asked me out and we went on a few dates over the course of 3 weeks or so. Then, suddenly he told me he can't do it any more, as he has just realized that he is not over his ex, as she didn't officially say they were breaking up, just that she needed a break and didn't feel the same way he does about her. He blames himself for how it all ended, and is having some personal issues (depression etc). But that its nothing I have done wrong, he still really likes me, and in the future maybe we could work out when he's got his head straight. She's recently moved back into the area and he's going to talk to her about it all as soon as he can face it. I still really like this guy, but I don't want to be someone's second choice. he is a great, honest man and I don't think he would ever lead me on purposely, but I'm really confused as to where I stand, and how much contact I should have with him till then.... he has stopped putting kisses on the end of our texts and things now, and our convos are shorter less in depth... argh its so frustrating.
Philosoraptor Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Well he's said he wants to try things with his ex... so that's where you stand. You are second choice, sadly. You shouldn't be in contact if you want anything more with him than friendship.. as you'd only be a rebound until he's taken the time necessary to reflect and heal from the end of his past relationship.
soccerrprp Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 As I see it you're not even his second choice. You're no choice at all for now. I can say this, if things don't work out with his ex, you are better off not getting back with him. He WILL have his ex as baggage, he's already indicated to you that you're not good enough to put 100% into when given a choice...go no contact and move on. The other thing is why in the world do you think he's such an incredible guy from a couple of dates? You've already placed him on some pedestal and you don't know him. He even says that he's to blame for the break-up with his ex....likely not so incredible after all.
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